I'm about to go crazy with NO CONTACT, please tell me it's going to be alright 😳

[LoveFound]

2 weeks since he dumped me and I never initiated contact. He's been texting and ive been replying with one liners until I decided to ignore him completely.

 

Please tell me the pain is gonna go away 😭 I miss him so much. 😳

[RayRay63]

The pain is going to go away. Part of this is biology, not emotion.

 

Some say 21 days, and some 30 days, are the key initial time periods, but stick to it.

[milly007]

Why is he texting you if he broke up with you? Sounds like he's breadcrumbing.

 

Stop responding and maintain no contact.

 

You're prolonging the pain of the break-up by maintaining contact with this guy.

 

Cut your ties asap so you can get past this and move forward.

 

Also know that it will be hard at first, which is completely normal. Stick with it.

[SweetGirl28]

Why did you break up? And what is he texting?

[LoveFound]

Thanks RayRay...i thought I was doing okay until today. I miss him a lot and I know that I have to be strong.

 

 

The pain is going to go away. Part of this is biology, not emotion.

 

Some say 21 days, and some 30 days, are the key initial time periods, but stick to it.

[LoveFound]

He is. My previous post had the title "Breadcrumbs?" He was telling me that he's hurting.

 

I cut off all contact starting Friday. Since his messages are so confusing to me.

 

 

Why is he texting you if he broke up with you? Sounds like he's breadcrumbing.

 

Stop responding and maintain no contact.

 

You're prolonging the pain of the break-up by maintaining contact with this guy.

 

Cut your ties asap so you can get past this and move forward.

 

Also know that it will be hard at first, which is completely normal. Stick with it.

[LoveFound]

The details are in my previous post. I've recently deleted his number cut off all contact. I miss him really badly today 😳

 

Why did you break up? And what is he texting?

[SweetGirl28]

The details are in my previous post. I've recently deleted his number cut off all contact. I miss him really badly today 😳

 

Lol, I just read through there. Why don't you block him? He's too emotionally immature to deal with.

And he's very young, you won't get past this by him sending you these messages.

Was this love, or lust? The excitement of a much younger guy and his attention? Just curious

because he seems to be able to easily play on your emotions. Your mind says, no, your heart says yes.

Listen to your mind in this matter. And NC is do hard but you will reach the point where it becomes routine to not talk.

I have a fwb situation with my ex and tbh I don't care anymore. One day something in your mind just clicks, and you feel the relief. Give it time.

[LoveFound]

It was the connection we had. 😳 We could talk about anything. Topics that other people would find boring. I look really young I guess that's why I get asked out by younger guys.

 

I really am emotional, not just with him. Been always told that "I'm too nice" I easily feel guilty. It's pure torture when he sends me messages. 😦

 

That's the reason I cut him off. I miss our conversations a lot.

 

 

Lol, I just read through there. Why don't you block him? He's too emotionally immature to deal with.

And he's very young, you won't get past this by him sending you these messages.

Was this love, or lust? The excitement of a much younger guy and his attention? Just curious

because he seems to be able to easily play on your emotions. Your mind says, no, your heart says yes.

Listen to your mind in this matter. And NC is do hard but you will reach the point where it becomes routine to not talk.

I have a fwb situation with my ex and tbh I don't care anymore. One day something in your mind just clicks, and you feel the relief. Give it time.

[milly007]

If it was a friend/loved one in your shoes, what would you want them to do?

 

I get it though. You know what you have to do, but the follow-through is the challenge.

 

In time, after so many days of NC, you will feel better. And when you look back, I'm guessing you'll be mad at yourself for responding to his breadcrumb texts.

 

Let the guy go. He can keep the crumbs for himself.

 

You're too good for breadcrumbs, girl.

[SweetGirl28]

It was the connection we had. 😳 We could talk about anything. Topics that other people would find boring. I look really young I guess that's why I get asked out by younger guys.

 

I really am emotional, not just with him. Been always told that "I'm too nice" I easily feel guilty. It's pure torture when he sends me messages. 😦

 

That's the reason I cut him off. I miss our conversations a lot.

 

Aww, you sound a lot like me. I get hit on by really young guys too, but I turn them down because even though I find them physically attractive, I dont want to be their momma lol. But if you're young at heart, it's easy to have things in common with them, like music, activities, and I will say some are very intellectual even at a young age. But what they want out of life is still usually very undecided, and long term probably won't work for most.

Emotional, too nice, feel guilt....yup. Don't I know it. You have to toughen up a bit to survive certain situations, and not let people tug your heartstrings so easily. Youre so early on in the breakup and NC, and you're going to miss him and want him and want to reply. When you're feeling more detached, you can decide what you want to do as far as him. Even after a period of NC , the contact can hurt when it begins again, so be careful if you do that. And know that's he's okay without you, just as you are without him. You had life prior to him. He had life prior to you. And you both still do, it's just minus one another. You don't need to worry about comforting him, he broke up with you. Don't feel guilty by ignoring him.

[LoveFound]

Exactly. This is why I cut him off completely. I believe I deserve better.

 

I guess when you get used to talking to them everyday for 2 years, and you abruptly cut him off, the pain gets to you 😳

 

I am hoping that things will be better in the next few days.

 

 

If it was a friend/loved one in your shoes, what would you want them to do?

 

I get it though. You know what you have to do, but the follow-through is the challenge.

 

In time, after so many days of NC, you will feel better. And when you look back, I'm guessing you'll be mad at yourself for responding to his breadcrumb texts.

 

Let the guy go. He can keep the crumbs for himself.

 

You're too good for breadcrumbs, girl.

[LoveFound]

Yep. Need to be stronger. I don't even know how I got involved in this...😬 We were just friends at first. Yep..im young at heart. Really need to be wiser too. It isn't always good to listen to the heart. 💔

 

Aww, you sound a lot like me. I get hit on by really young guys too, but I turn them down because even though I find them physically attractive, I dont want to be their momma lol. But if you're young at heart, it's easy to have things in common with them, like music, activities, and I will say some are very intellectual even at a young age. But what they want out of life is still usually very undecided, and long term probably won't work for most.

Emotional, too nice, feel guilt....yup. Don't I know it. You have to toughen up a bit to survive certain situations, and not let people tug your heartstrings so easily. Youre so early on in the breakup and NC, and you're going to miss him and want him and want to reply. When you're feeling more detached, you can decide what you want to do as far as him. Even after a period of NC , the contact can hurt when it begins again, so be careful if you do that. And know that's he's okay without you, just as you are without him. You had life prior to him. He had life prior to you. And you both still do, it's just minus one another. You don't need to worry about comforting him, he broke up with you. Don't feel guilty by ignoring him.

[SweetGirl28]

Well you obviously felt a deeper connection after starting a friendship. It creates a bond that you want to take further sometimes, and that's okay. Every experience leaves us with lessons. We need to realize those, and remember them so that we don't repeat past patterns. Biggest one I learned yet is to steer clear of men who are going through a divorce or recently divorced, because no matter how much they tell you they disconnected long ago, they didn't lol. The divorce stirs up even more emotions within them.

[LoveFound]

I really have bad headache from this on top of a broken heart. Sigh! I don't think I want to be in a relationship right now. 😦😳

[Hollyj]

Hon, keeping busy helps.

[Nano]

It’s part of the process, what you’re feeling IS normal! But like others said it’s pure biology. You’re quitting a drug! We should be locked up at rehab at this point!

 

Those feelings WILL lessen the longer time goes by but you must maintain NC. I wish I did... everytime we talked it set me back.

 

There will be days where you miss him so much like today and that’s fine, miss him all you want, just don’t contact him. Do whatever you think will distract you through that rough day. For me it was simply a walk while listening to a podcast, or maybe watching a movie or a tv show.. or even cooking a meal that made me relax. Sometimes just talking to someone who cares about you is enough to get you through a rough day.

 

I don’t know what your beliefs are, but I was once told by someone who is very spiritual that I should lean into those people who made the love of God most tangible to me. Do you have people like that around you? Who will give you that love without you even having to ask? Maybe a parent, a sibling, a friend or even children? Smother yourself in them.

[LoveFound]

Trying to, Holly! Was left alone at home today and I felt really really anxious yesterday. Thank you 😙

 

 

Hon, keeping busy helps.

[LoveFound]

Some family issues came up. I used to talk to him about these things, not in detail but it felt awful when I found myself feeling abandoned. I really have to fight this or it's going to turn into depression.

 

My family is in the U.S., (i'm in Asia) I viber as much as I can. Been praying a lot and asking for inner strength.

 

 

It’s part of the process, what you’re feeling IS normal! But like others said it’s pure biology. You’re quitting a drug! We should be locked up at rehab at this point!

 

Those feelings WILL lessen the longer time goes by but you must maintain NC. I wish I did... everytime we talked it set me back.

 

There will be days where you miss him so much like today and that’s fine, miss him all you want, just don’t contact him. Do whatever you think will distract you through that rough day. For me it was simply a walk while listening to a podcast, or maybe watching a movie or a tv show.. or even cooking a meal that made me relax. Sometimes just talking to someone who cares about you is enough to get you through a rough day.

 

I don’t know what your beliefs are, but I was once told by someone who is very spiritual that I should lean into those people who made the love of God most tangible to me. Do you have people like that around you? Who will give you that love without you even having to ask? Maybe a parent, a sibling, a friend or even children? Smother yourself in them.