sadfifi Posted March 3, 2018 Author Share Posted March 3, 2018 You still got overly upset because he wanted to take his friends to the gym. It's ONE DAY, it shouldn't have been a big deal. And I see now that you've gotten advice you didn't like, you've added more details that change the situation completely. Seeing as you become defensive when you get advice opposing your view, go ahead and continue being angry with him. Best of luck to you. No, not one day. He means in general. So he stopped me from going to the gym my friends were at so I could come with him, and now that I did he made his friends come here as well and I get wanting to be with them but why not just let me go where I wanna go so I could be with my friends in peace as well. I guess I’m the idiot for actually agreeing with signing up but no worries. I’ll just cancel and be with my girls. If he gets mad that’s his issue not mine. Link to comment
sadfifi Posted March 3, 2018 Author Share Posted March 3, 2018 I completely agree with this and also I'd consider why he has to be focused on you getting more fit to look different in a wedding dress you're going to wear for one day? Fine for a personal goal -why does that need to be a couple goal? Here's what I would do - chill on the "bringing the friends" thing - and why not go for a run or power walk with him one morning or evening so that you're actually doing something together. Or take a dance class together which also might help with your wedding reception. Finally I'd consider reevaluating your ultimate goal -maybe if he sees that you want to make this a life change, and not a wedding-dress-focused change, he might be more on board with figuring out a time you can both go together and as a couple more of the time. No no no. My point is why tell me “babe we’re going where I signed up this morning and we’re gonna get you a membership so we can go together” and then allllll of a sudden he tells me he told his friends to join as well -.- why not just let me go where I wanna go with my friends as well that way we can both be happy ... Link to comment
Seraphim Posted March 3, 2018 Share Posted March 3, 2018 Just go and be with your friends. He can be mad if he likes. Link to comment
j.man Posted March 3, 2018 Share Posted March 3, 2018 Just go and be with your friends. He can be mad if he likes. But that would destroy the narrative. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted March 3, 2018 Share Posted March 3, 2018 No no no. My point is why tell me “babe we’re going where I signed up this morning and we’re gonna get you a membership so we can go together” and then allllll of a sudden he tells me he told his friends to join as well -.- why not just let me go where I wanna go with my friends as well that way we can both be happy ... I didn't understand that he signed up first -I thought you had. I think this was a miscommunication. You are going together even though others are joining you. And he should go when he feels like it as should you. I worked out at 5:55am this morning because it feels great to work out then. Even if my husband didn't have to watch our son while I went to the gym, he would never, ever work out at that time and nor would I want to wait till 5PM if I possibly could. Sometimes depending on the day, your mood, what you've eaten/not eaten you feel more motivated to go at a particular time. It's too tight a leash you have on him otherwise. Maybe he meant you two could go together some of the time? Link to comment
journeynow Posted March 4, 2018 Share Posted March 4, 2018 we’re gonna get you a membership so we can go together Maybe he meant you two could drive together to get there (or walk, or bicycle, or bus, or however you travel), and not necessarily work out together? "Go" together, as in getting TO the gym? Link to comment
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