RitaTrue Posted February 20, 2018 Share Posted February 20, 2018 After 8 weeks of NC, my ex texted me yesterday, saying, "hey bubbles, download this app so I can send you a video message." We were together 1 year. We broke up because he suddenly felt we were incompatible, although he never mentioned being unhappy or annoyed prior. Our break up was odd but amicable. I've learned things since doing NC. I'd be hesitant to be with him romantically, but I miss our talks as friends--the ones we had before we were together. I'm in a weird place: I'm attracted to him but I'm at peace with not having him romantically. If I saw him with someone else, if he's happy, ok. I'm not sure why I feel hesitant to answer his message. Link to comment
11moreweeks Posted February 20, 2018 Share Posted February 20, 2018 You mentioned on another thread that they're a serial dater which may be making you hesitant. Did it fail with someone else? Did it not fail with someone else and there could be the tiny chance they want to flaunt it? At least for me, I would probably download the app and accept a video message. It might set you back in healing a bit (but you said you feel pretty comfortable otherwise, so how far back could you really go?) Maybe the time has given him a means to organize his thoughts/feelings more and the breakup will seem less odd. Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted February 20, 2018 Share Posted February 20, 2018 My advice---- don't bother. Those talks will set you back. Link to comment
figureitout23 Posted February 21, 2018 Share Posted February 21, 2018 Don't do it, 8 weeks is nothing and even posting on here shows you aren't as over the situation as you believe, sorry to be blunt, but this would be a horrible idea and will set you back. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 21, 2018 Share Posted February 21, 2018 Don't download apps. Are you sure it wasn't a scammer spoofing his number? Weird message and weird that after 8 weeks this was sent rather than some sort of text or social media video message, no? In fact after breaking up it's best to delete and block exes and remain no contact.After 8 weeks of NC, my ex texted me yesterday, saying, "hey bubbles, download this app so I can send you a video message." Link to comment
Lambert Posted February 21, 2018 Share Posted February 21, 2018 Don't download apps. Are you sure it wasn't a scammer spoofing his number? Weird message and weird that after 8 weeks this was sent rather than some sort of text or social media video message, no? In fact after breaking up it's best to delete and block exes and remain no contact. i agree with this... you are in a good spot, don't risk it. if someone really has something to say, they should try harder. if you make it easy for them, they won't value it. know you are worth more! Link to comment
RitaTrue Posted February 22, 2018 Author Share Posted February 22, 2018 You mentioned on another thread that they're a serial dater which may be making you hesitant. Did it fail with someone else? Did it not fail with someone else and there could be the tiny chance they want to flaunt it? At least for me, I would probably download the app and accept a video message. It might set you back in healing a bit (but you said you feel pretty comfortable otherwise, so how far back could you really go?) Maybe the time has given him a means to organize his thoughts/feelings more and the breakup will seem less odd. He is a serial dater. I have a hunch that we may have spontaneously broken up because he found someone else then, but it didn't work out. Although he told me during our break up there was no one else, I doubt it. He told me he's never been fully single in years. So I doubt he spontaneously started. I thought about it. I downloaded the app then uninstalled it. Twice. It's not on my phone anymore. I haven't sent anything either. I figure if I don't have peace about it I shouldn't do it. Link to comment
RitaTrue Posted February 22, 2018 Author Share Posted February 22, 2018 Don't download apps. Are you sure it wasn't a scammer spoofing his number? Weird message and weird that after 8 weeks this was sent rather than some sort of text or social media video message, no? In fact after breaking up it's best to delete and block exes and remain no contact. I'm 99% sure it's him. The message started out with his petname for me, which I also found odd. A spammer wouldn't know that info. I do agree he would've tried harder if he actually had something to say Link to comment
RitaTrue Posted February 22, 2018 Author Share Posted February 22, 2018 i agree with this... you are in a good spot, don't risk it. if someone really has something to say, they should try harder. if you make it easy for them, they won't value it. know you are worth more! Thank you. I haven't answered. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 Excellent. No one asks you to download an app in order to communicate. If this was your ex and he wanted to communicate he would have simply texted you with a decent message. What was the app? I downloaded the app then uninstalled it. It's not on my phone anymore. Link to comment
RitaTrue Posted February 22, 2018 Author Share Posted February 22, 2018 Excellent. No one asks you to download an app in order to communicate. If this was your ex and he wanted to communicate he would have simply texted you with a decent message. What was the app? An app called Marco Polo Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 22, 2018 Share Posted February 22, 2018 It's a video sharing and location sharing app. There are a lot of reports about scammers using friends numbers to gain access to your phone and your location, etc.. An app called Marco Polo Link to comment
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