Thinking of moving to another state

[LazyDaisy]

So on Christmas I broke up with a boyfriend I had for almost 12 years. I started dating a week later and I am still with the new guy.

 

I’m from NJ. I live in the same town I was born in. I am currently on vacation in Florida with my new boyfriend. We have been talking about moving to Florida. To the Clearwater, Tampa area.

 

I am between jobs, I don’t like the cold winters and I would just like the chance to start over new somewhere. My entire life was wrapped up in my ex and now that its over I just want a restart.

 

Is this a crazy idea? Will I regret it? I’ve looked on line at houses and see a few I like. I have enough money to hold us over until I get a job.

 

How many people on here started over in a new state? I’m turning 50 this year. I would love to hear some success stories

[mustlovedogs]

Moving to another state isn’t what concerns me. It’s that you have a new boyfriend of literally like 7 weeks that you met immediately on the heels of a relationship and you want to relocate with him.

 

Noooope. So much nope.

 

Also, never buy a house without a job. I don’t even know how you could.

[LazyDaisy]

I can pay cash for it. I literally have a house to sell and almost 1 million. How can i get a job in another state without living there first? It takes time to interview. I cant do that long distance.

[LazyDaisy]

We are going to live together regardless. Either in NJ or FL.

[mustlovedogs]

You will do what you want, but this has red flags all over it. I would stay and keep dating this guy before moving cross country for him.

[Batya33]

I would only do this if you are going to live independently until you two have been dating for at least close to a year. Way too risky to relocate and share living space with someone you barely know. I relocated after I got married -for the first time really -had lived in my city over 4 decades and moved hundreds of miles away. But I knew when we started dating that if we married I'd likely have to relocate for his job so I had a long time to prepare. But, I didn't need a job right away (because i had an infant) and I can tell you that finding a job when I did need one wasn't easy without the network I had in my home state.

[HeartGoesOn]

I understand this was not your question, but hopefully you're not planning on bringing your 12 y/o son with you to live with this man whom you barely know?

[katrina1980]

We are going to live together regardless. Either in NJ or FL.

 

Does this guy know that you're essentially a millionaire?

 

What about him? Does he work? Own a home? Have his own money?

 

Does he plan on finding work in FL?

 

Will you be supporting the both of you once you move?

 

Without knowing the answers to these questions, I can't give an accurate opinion.

[boltnrun]

That is an awful lot of changes for your child.

 

I know, I know...he's "fine". Even though you originally said he saw your ex as a father figure and was terribly upset over the breakup, he's "fine".

 

Sorry, I think it's way too soon to be not only having your child live with a different man, but to have him move states as well.

 

Unless you're planning to leave your child with your parents?

[catfeeder]

My entire life was wrapped up in my ex and now that its over I just want a restart.

 

So you're wrapping up your new life in a rebound guy, and what is it that you want to know about doing that?

 

The place doesn't matter.