Nips927 Posted February 12, 2018 Share Posted February 12, 2018 4 months and some change ago my fiancee of 2yrs ups and leave because she no longer was happy. Within about 3 weeks she's s dating someone else 2 states and 6hr drive away. She gave me back the dog because she couldn't take care of her. This whole time I've had a chance to reflect on me, my actions, the type of relationship I want, and the type of person I want to be with. In the past couple of months I've been dating a completely different class of women all together. All are mid to late 20s, graduated from college, live on their own, have a full-time job or are in their career. A couple of them I really liked but some of them I didn't know how far or how long they were going to last. My dog recently had surgery and I thought I would just let my ex know hey the surgery went good the vet said everything looked good. Never expected a reply, I asked my ex if she wanted to FaceTime and see the dog and she agreed. I can safely say, I'm no longer attracted to my ex physically. At all. Like nothing is there for me anymore and I think my heart and mind needed that FaceTime to agree to let go. I've been telling myself for weeks I can do better than my ex, I can be happier without her, I will find someone better. And now more than ever I believe it's true. I believe I've found my center and believe that hope is there for me. The qaulity of women I've been dating blow my ex out of the water in every way. I've been ghosted sure, I've ghosted a couple, and I had to cut ties with a couple of them on my terms because they aren't what I want. I keep telling myself I want a relationship based on being wanted not needed. I don't want someone who needs me because they need help paying their bills, place to live, or something like that. I want a relationship that the other person doesn't need meat all. But wants me and I want them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sputnik123 Posted February 12, 2018 Share Posted February 12, 2018 Sounds very good Nips :) If the attraction has gone, it means you are in a very good place to let go completely. S x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wiseman2 Posted February 12, 2018 Share Posted February 12, 2018 Excellent. Nothing like dating some attractive independent women to open your eyes, right? Sounds like you've gotten your "closure". hope the dog's doing ok too. What kind of meat? :welcoming: I want a relationship that the other person doesn't need meat all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nips927 Posted February 12, 2018 Author Share Posted February 12, 2018 I feel like everything has come together, because i don't my ex could ever offer me the life I want. She's barely getting thru school, sex was just meh, she doesn't have a job, she sometimes acts like a child, she couldn't take care of a dog how is she ever going to take care of kid, I no longer feel the way I did about her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nips927 Posted February 12, 2018 Author Share Posted February 12, 2018 Supposed to say me, not meat lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
electricorchid Posted February 12, 2018 Share Posted February 12, 2018 I mean it sounds like you're coping with the breakup just fine! Dating isn't always easy and yes, you'll feel that way about the girls you date it's normal to discover what kindof woman you want along the way.. There was no question at the end of this so I really dont understand what you need help with though? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Morello Posted February 12, 2018 Share Posted February 12, 2018 It's much easier to deal with a break up when you were not thinking highly of your partner. You're confident that you'll find something better. The problem is when you have nothing to complain about your ex and were happy with them. My ex was probably the prettiest, kindest, smartest and most caring girl I've been with. I'm not syaing she'd be always like that, but that's my read on her in the time we were together. Now, along with healing from the break up and rejection, I also need to cope with those feelings that I'll have a really hard time finding better than her. But I'lm stubborn and will keep trying :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nips927 Posted February 12, 2018 Author Share Posted February 12, 2018 Wasn't looking for help for me. Looking to give those who are struggling to move on that hope there and you have to move on. I once thought that my ex was the prettiest and all that. But I've come to realize she isn't. I felt like it was so easy after the breakup that everyone was saying you can do better you will find someone better. That I didn't believe because I didn't want to believe. But now it's I know I can do better, I've started doing better and will continue to move towards the path that has been put before me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetGirl28 Posted February 12, 2018 Share Posted February 12, 2018 Sounds good Nips, but be aware you're short term out of a long term relationship. Things may seem great now because you are distracted by these pretty young girls, but that high can come crashing down on you. I do agree with want over need, so good for you in realizing that:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lambert Posted February 14, 2018 Share Posted February 14, 2018 4 months and some change ago my fiancee of 2yrs ups and leave because she no longer was happy. Within about 3 weeks she's s dating someone else 2 states and 6hr drive away. She gave me back the dog because she couldn't take care of her. This whole time I've had a chance to reflect on me, my actions, the type of relationship I want, and the type of person I want to be with. In the past couple of months I've been dating a completely different class of women all together. All are mid to late 20s, graduated from college, live on their own, have a full-time job or are in their career. A couple of them I really liked but some of them I didn't know how far or how long they were going to last. My dog recently had surgery and I thought I would just let my ex know hey the surgery went good the vet said everything looked good. Never expected a reply, I asked my ex if she wanted to FaceTime and see the dog and she agreed. I can safely say, I'm no longer attracted to my ex physically. At all. Like nothing is there for me anymore and I think my heart and mind needed that FaceTime to agree to let go. I've been telling myself for weeks I can do better than my ex, I can be happier without her, I will find someone better. And now more than ever I believe it's true. I believe I've found my center and believe that hope is there for me. The qaulity of women I've been dating blow my ex out of the water in every way. I've been ghosted sure, I've ghosted a couple, and I had to cut ties with a couple of them on my terms because they aren't what I want. I keep telling myself I want a relationship based on being wanted not needed. I don't want someone who needs me because they need help paying their bills, place to live, or something like that. I want a relationship that the other person doesn't need meat all. But wants me and I want them.when you think good thoughts, good things happen! its all our minds. when you think you'll do better, you will. for all the heart broken reading this and the one writing it [emoji6] you will meet someone better! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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