Lust

[Jazmin82]

I have a situation I was working with this guy for a while I never really paid him any attention until we got put on the same site together. He started pursuing me and telling me all the right things. I knew he had a baby mother but he made it seem like it was nothing serious we hooked up several times and I become pregnant I tell him and he say handle that get an abortion I tricked him i dont want another kid I tell him no I don't want to and he cuts off communication with me. I don't have to see him as much because we have been switched to different buildings but every time I do see all these emotions come up.

[melancholy123]

Well you need a lawyer to find out his obligations regarding this child. Why did you take a chance on getting pregnant with a guy you dont appear to know very well? If he has no regard or respect for his baby mama why did you think he'd be a good person to have sex with?

[smackie9]

You sure made some mistakes here....oh well put your big girl panties on and prepare for the baby and it's needs...you are going to be a mom! Seriously the last thing you should be concerned about is this guy, focus on what's important...motherhood.

[Hollyj]

Good God! Why would you get involved with this guy when he has a gf? Why didn't you use condoms??????????? You should also get tested.

[Annia]

The others already pointed out your mistakes which I expect you learn from them. Now you need to get ready to be a mother, take care of your health, get tested for stds and as was pointed find a lawyer to figure out the paternal responsibilities of this guy. This man seems awful so it's a good thing he won't be near your child giving them a bad example but he has responsibilities as a father even if he's not present in their life.

[katrina1980]

Good God! Why would you get involved with this guy when he has a gf? Why didn't you use condoms??????????? You should also get tested.

 

Yeah and some other form of birth control as well.

 

You're sexually active, you go to your doctor or free clinic and get on birth control, hello.

 

I keep saying this, but I seriously wonder about some people's thought process. SMH

[DaisyMayPorter]

This guy can’t tell you to get an abortion. Don’t worry about him. Take him out of the equation. Just be concerned about yourself and your baby.

[boltnrun]

1. Figure out how you will deal with prenatal care, maternity leave and child care after the child is born.

2. DNA test

3. Attorney to set up child support.

4. Get on birth control so this doesn't happen again.

[Hollyj]

Or, consider adoption.

[SweetGirl28]

It's your body, and your decision.

You do what's right for you, he doesn't get to make that decision for you.

If you decide to go through with the pregnancy and have the baby, he doesn't need to be in the baby's life.

But he will need to get a paternity test and then pay child support, which is the law. You can have it all court

ordered and they can even attach his wages if he refuses, so you don't really even need to deal with him directly.

Now isn't the time for him to be selfish, he should have thought about that before he cheated.

Let this be a lesson learned to you to always use protection. Babieare a blessing but when born into not the best

of circumstances, it can be really tough.

If you carry through with this, lean on friends and family for emotional support, not him.

He is being very selfish and immature. Hopefully he comes around, but if not, no loss to you.

[Wiseman2]

Why did you 'trick' him?

we hooked up several times and I become pregnant I tell him and he say handle that get an abortion I tricked him i dont want another kid I tell him no I don't want to and he cuts off communication with me.

[boltnrun]

I think HE said she tricked him.

 

I became pregnant unexpectedly years ago and the guy told me "My friends warned me you'd pull this", like I got that way by myself or was trying to trap him into marrying me. I wasn't, but that was how he reacted.