My LD boyfriend just broke up with me, I need help

[florenceRBD]

My boyfriend broke up with me 1 day ago. We were long distance (he lived in Chicago while I’m from France). The day before he broke up with me we were planning on going on a trip together, he was even planning his next visit to where I lived. The next day he told we we needed to talk, that he misses me too much and that he can’t handdle things anymore and sees no future. I was distant to him the week before and really rude sometimes (I’m not blaming myself, just stating the facts). While breaking up he couldn’t stop crying while I was trying to keep it together. He even said he didn’t want to end the conversation because he couldn’t stop looking at my face. In that moment I decided it was enough and ended the conversation. I know it has been a very short period of time since the break up, but I can’t stop thinking about how one person can be so excited about seeing you and breaking up the very next day. I’m a very strong woman and I’m certain I won’t contact him first. But what if he does… What do you guys think, will he contact me again?

[SweetGirl28]

They almost always get in contact again after a period of time, but honestly it's best to let this go.

I can't really understand these LDR's that take place through text, email, or FaceTime. You need

real dates, physical intimacy, don't you? What you had was more of an emotional connection.

That's hard to let go of, but realize he felt he couldn't maintain what you had anymore, and chose

to end it. He obviously had been contemplating it prior to telling you. Sorry.

[Cope]

Aw Florence, I'm so sorry you are going through this! I just got out of a casual LD, but still I understand you. I've been in another one too and yes, they are tough! You will actually be thankful at some point that he ended it.

 

I agree with SweetGirl, they do get in touch after a while. Don't wait for that though, live your life. Do what you need to do to heal and forget about him. I too would be devastated if he did that a day before a meet up, but seriously , weird things like this happen and you have to realize that you might never get an answer as to why.

 

LDs might lack of physical intimacy, but they can still be strong relationships and they hurt the same. They just don't make sense if there isn't any plan of moving to one another in the future. Of course there must be some people that are ok with that too, but I don't think it's the majority.

 

Go NC. It works! Don't expect him to return, you do NC for yourself!

 

Hang in there, it's hard but doable!

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. How long were you dating and how often have you seen each other in person? It sounds like he was being honest that LDRs are too difficult and decided to set you and himself free from all the stress of LDRs.

he misses me too much and that he can’t handdle things anymore and sees no future.

[florenceRBD]

We dated for 1.5 years and long distance started only 2 months after starting dating, so more than one year LD. He was the one who wanted to try long distance, I didn't really like the idea at first but decided to try. We saw each other once or twice a month, it was pretty great. But he recently (this week) changed jobs and had to work on saturdays, so he couldn't visit that often from now on... I feel like he decided to break up because of the difficulties of meeting, but I also feel that decision may seem right for him now but he will soon regret it. And it's very sad, cause I won't be here waiting for that to happen...