Trying to breakup with my boyfriend

[Queenjess1]

I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now. I have tried twice before this to break up with him but he keeps manipulating me into believing that it can work out between us. There is a ton of baggage on his side and it is hard to swallow. My heart wants me to give him a chance to fix things, but my gut tells me that this is for the best. He hasn't worked in a long time, he is depressed and his depression makes him unstable, he has been married before, and he has children. I am 23 and he is 31. He claims he wants to get a job and he has been speaking to a therapist. To make matters worse on all of our dates I had to buy him dinner and he only paid twice. I don't want to end up supporting him if he can't find a good paying job like I do. What do you think I should do?

[melancholy123]

Find your backbone and tell him it's over. Block and delete. Actions speak louder than words and this guy will have to make a pretty big transformation before he's ready for a relationship with anyone. He should probably keep seeing his therapist.

 

This comes down to you. You want to break up? Tell him goodbye and stop getting sucked in by him.

[Hollyj]

Be done with this already. You are playing the role of his mother. Don't be any man's wallet!

 

He offers nothing!

[DanZee]

Oh, boy! Get away from him. Text him your break up if you have to. Don't get caught up in his drama.

[catfeeder]

Nobody can manipulate you when you walk away--and stay away.

[ThatwasThen]

You don't want to be the bad guy so why not tell him that when he gets his stuff together (finds a job, continues on in therapy, is in a better frame of emotional health to give you a call then and if you're still single you can meet for a coffee to discus what strides he accomplished.

 

Right now he needs to work on himself. His goal should be to be the best that he can be AND THEN start dating. Currently he is not in a good place financially, mentally or emotionally to be doing anything else other then getting his personal self back on track.

 

Don't let guilt keep you there.

[Wiseman2]

Sorry to hear this. At 3 mos in just tell him it's not working out. Then block and delete him. Don't try to fix him.

My heart wants me to give him a chance to fix things, but my gut tells me that this is for the best. He hasn't worked in a long time, he is depressed and his depression makes him unstable, he has been married before, and he has children. I am 23 and he is 31.

[Gabriella33]

I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now. I have tried twice before this to break up with him but he keeps manipulating me into believing that it can work out between us. There is a ton of baggage on his side and it is hard to swallow. My heart wants me to give him a chance to fix things, but my gut tells me that this is for the best. He hasn't worked in a long time, he is depressed and his depression makes him unstable, he has been married before, and he has children. I am 23 and he is 31. He claims he wants to get a job and he has been speaking to a therapist. To make matters worse on all of our dates I had to buy him dinner and he only paid twice. I don't want to end up supporting him if he can't find a good paying job like I do. What do you think I should do?

 

I tried to break up with my bf 5 months into our relationship - and many times after that. He also manipulated and convinced me to stay. Almost 6 years later and we were still together because he manipulated every time I wanted to leave. The relationship drained me to the core. Don't do the same mistake I did and allow him to convince you that it will work out when you feel otherwise. Leave now before more of your life and his life is wasted away on the wrong person.