preciousgirl82 Posted January 18, 2018 Share Posted January 18, 2018 Hi, My husband and I have been married for 2.5 years, dated for over 10 years. We made the decision last year to start trying to conceive (TTC) our 1st child starting this past Summer. Problem is, my husband gets tired and stressed very easily and, most nights, he falls asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow. When he's not falling asleep, either im tired, it's too late at night by the time we settle into bed (we both work full-time jobs) or we've been arguing and aren't in the mood. Not to mention, since July, I have lost two close relatives and there has been a lot of stress in our lives. Since we got married our sex life has taken a real nosedive. Though we've never had sex very frequently, it has gotten to the point where there's a 2 month gap...and we're only 35 and 36 years old! Therefore, we are missing my fertile days almost every month and, due to our age, I feel we have no time to waste (which is only adding more stress). My husband knows that I've always been fearful of pregnancy/childbirth so, even though he wants kids, he's used to walking on glass around the topic. Also,he refuses to TTC if we aren't naturally passionate that day and ready to go. So he sees no problem waiting for "the right moment" and hates the pressure that comes every month when i'm ovulating. Meanwhile, I feel so much pressure to hurry and get pregnant because i'll be 36 in March and everyone in my family has already put in their minds that I'm never having children. I'd love for my husband and I to conceive under ideal circumstances but the reality is, our marriage has its very rough days, my sex drive is almost nonexistent, and just the mere pressure of racing against the clock is making this whole ordeal aggravating for both of us. And how can I ever get pregnant when we rarely have sex in the first place? Just last night we got into an argument over this and we aren't speaking. Being that my fertile period is just about gone, looks like another month wasted! :( Link to comment
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