DarkShadows549 Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 There's this girl I really, really like that I met on facebook about a month ago. It just so happens she lives a few miles from me. I just recently started communicating with her. She works at a cosmetology school, so I thought it'd be a little flirtatious to make an appointment to have her cut my hair. This was how we officially "met". When we first made eye contact, she kind of froze and just stared at me in awkward wonder. It was awkward at first, but we sort of got used to each other. Honestly, I was surprised to find that she and I are very much alike personality wise. We got to know each other a little bit as well. When I left she seemed really happy to have met me. So a few days go by and I decide to text her and ask if she wants to go the movies with me (never once used the word date but you get the picture). She sadly told me she would but she's busy with school on that day. I told her to just let me know when she wanted to, and she said she would. About an hour goes by and she confronts me about my question, asking me if it were a date or just a friend thing. When I said date, she gave the bad news.... Apparently, she's not wanting to date right now because she has something "complicated" going on with someone else right now. Then she goes on to explain that the boy is the one making it complicated, not her. They've been a thing for a little less than a month, from what I can gather. The whole time she's telling me this it seems like she felt bad for letting me down. I appreciate that, but at the moment I just wanted to burst. I've been single for nearly a year since my last abusive relationship and I've been plagued by depression for years. I've faced more than a few rejections in the past, and I can tell you I'm not good at handling them. They break me. But I kept it cool. Instead, I told her that I would be around and that I'd been single since April and it didn't look like that was changing anytime soon. That was the end of that conversation. It's been a few days since the incident. We still continue to talk and play iMessage games and snapchat occasionally. But I just can't take that rejection. This boy that she's with (I think I have a good idea who it is) is, according to her words, making things complicated. So here's what I really want to say to her: "I'm just saying, I wouldn't want to waste time with someone who doesn't know what they want." But I feel like that's the wrong thing to say... This boy is clearly not 100% down for her or they wouldn't be "complicated" if you know what I mean? But I am 100% down. I'm even willing to watch all the Star Wars movies for the first time with her (pray for me). I have never been this deeply infatuated by someone so fast. She's absolutely stunning. We share a lot of the same personality traits and interests. She's shy yet outgoing, and I just love everything about her (that I know of). But there's this dude who wants to get in the way! What do I do? I really hate competition, but I'm willing to compete for this girl. I just feel like she hasn't given me a chance. She's the type of person who doesn't like hurting people, so I'm afraid she won't want to hurt this dude either. Are they even together if it's "complicated"?? And no, don't just tell there's plenty of fish in the sea. I am very picky, and it is very, very hard for me to find someone I'm this attracted to. There's gotta be a way to do this. Just, I could be wrong but it seems like she really likes me but she also likes this dude and since she knows him more she wants to give him the chance over me. She doesn't want to hurt either of us. I need some helpful advice, guys. No hate comments. Something that actually answers my question. Link to comment
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