What should I do? Please help

[Mechlid]

I used to have a girlfriend, she left to live abroad for a few months and we decided to break up for the time being. She's coming back soon and I think I'm still in love with her and want to be with her; however, she isn't gonna be back for more than 3 months and will leave again, after which there's no telling whether we'll stay together and last. In the meantime I've been on a few dates with another girl who seems really nice and is really pretty, but I don't feel the same about her (yet, anyway) as I do about my ex girlfriend. Should I end it with the new girl, who has the potential to be a great girlfriend, to be with the one I thought I wanted to end up with, or should I take the safer bet and hope this new girl is just as amazing as my ex?

[melancholy123]

If the first girl is going to be gone again in a few months why dump the current girl? In three months time you'd have no girlfriend!

[Capricorn3]

In three months time you'd have no girlfriend!

Maybe that's a good idea cause if he's still pining for his ex, that's not fair to the new girl who he says he doesn't feel the same about as he does for his ex.

[Mechlid]

but what if the new girl doesn't turn out to be as amazing? And I end up not loving her? I will have thrown away 3 beautiful months

[Mechlid]

So you think I should risk it and go for my ex, if only because it's more fair to the new girl?

[Capricorn3]

Does your Ex even want you back?

[Mechlid]

She says she wants to be with me, but doesn't know for sure whether it'll turn out when she leaves again, and therefore can't make any promises

[Capricorn3]

I just think it's very unfair to the new girl and incredibly selfish, but that's just me. You don't play with people like that (imo).

[Mechlid]

I suppose that's true, but it's not like I'm using the new girl. I just genuinely don't know which option is eventually going to make me happy, either option can end in success or failure

[annie24]

I think you should carry on with this current woman assuming that your ex won't want you back. If your ex is going to be gone all the time, is there a point in staying together? How long would the long distance thing continue?

[DanZee]

Yeah, you got a lot of maybes from this girlfriend who may or may not want you when she returns and then travels away again. You're not exclusive. Give the girl you've recently dated a chance.

[Mechlid]

I think you should carry on with this current woman assuming that your ex won't want you back. If your ex is going to be gone all the time, is there a point in staying together? How long would the long distance thing continue?

 

I think my ex does want me back, but yeah there are insecurities about the chances of everything working out in the end. But what if it would? I have no clue what the future looks like

[Mechlid]

Yeah, you got a lot of maybes from this girlfriend who may or may not want you when she returns and then travels away again. You're not exclusive. Give the girl you've recently dated a chance.

 

True, my ex Isn't making anything easy. I guess I can at least continue going out with this new girl for a bit

[DaisyMayPorter]

I’m sorry - At least you can continue going out with this new girl “for a bit”? Do you even like her? I feel bad for her that you are even thinking this. You are lucky to have so many choices!

[Mechlid]

Yeah I do like her, she's great! But like I said before, we've only been on a few dates, so it's not like I can say I like her better than my ex

[Wiseman2]

Don't bounce back and forth. The new girl deserves a chance and so do you. Ms. "can't make promises" is probably in another relationship and that is not all that "amazing".

[Mechlid]

I'll do that, Thanks for the help