Katanda Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 Me and my bf have been together just short of 2 years, friends at the beginning. Literally my best friend, and i know nothing is perfect but our relationship was as close as can be. No arguments, always supportive of each other and he treated me like a princess. He moved in with me and my house mate and in a weeks time we were supposed to be looking for our own place. I cant explain it but the past weeks i had this feeling. I have been burned every past relationship in the past and i dont have much of a family. 2 nights ago i sat him down and said moving in was massive for me for this reason, i wanted kids with him one day etc and i cant go into this feeling like somethings not okay so this is his last chance to tell me. He swore blind hed never hurt me amd hes dont nothing wrong. Last night the feeling something was up was overwhelming and i went through his phone (i know,i know) . All over facebook he has been messaging women tens of them. Some are simply hi sexy how are you. But many are him giving out his number to add him on whatsapp and they vice versa where they send pictures. One was particularly concerning of a married woman with kids who he wrote to often and said things like she should have said her husbands out he would have came around and she was very open to this, seemed like they messaged alot about day to day things to. Im even mentioned in the messagw right before some texting which is a massive slap in the face I woke him.up and asked him to leave and he never said a word. He left and text me saying hes sorry i dont deserve this etc. But that he knows how it looks but hes never actually cheated or done anything physical. But you know now i look back and as happy as we were hed stopped hugging me at night, stopped holding my hand. Was this down to his own feelings of shame? We were having less sex, but i put it down to us being tired as we were both in hospitality jobs over christmas To make matters worse we work together. I was looking for a new job anyway so i can get out eventually. He said he cant come to work because hes too ashamed to see me he cant even look at me. I persuaded him to and that i wouldnt make it awkward. Im so hurt my best friend in the whole world has done this to me. We literally were the opposite sex versions of each other. How am i ever supposed to know if anything more happened, if shed left her address and said yes come now would he have gone? I know none if you have that answer,but i guess i need some guidance from someone who has experienced something similar before..thanks to all in advance. X Link to comment
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