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Single artist's lost connection; seeking advice


Crystal Pepsi
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A brief background: After leaving a four-year relationship last year, I'm now in my early 30s hoping to find someone. I live in a college town, but I have a very small social network and, therefore, mainly rely on online dating. I'm introverted but pretty comfortable in my skin, and I have a variety of artistic passions. So it's frustrating not being able to share that with anyone, friend or romantic partner, even though I live in a decent art community.

 

I recently came across a dating profile of a local artist that matched me strikingly well. I stalled to message her and she quickly left the site. However, I soon rediscovered her art projects in other social media. I definitely want to contact her, but I'm not sure how. Maybe just networking with her as fellow artists would be best to start, rather than telling her flat-out that I wanted to message her on a dating site but wasn't timely enough. Then I could tell her I'm new to the community, inquire about local art events, and see where that leads. I strongly feel I should contact her one way or another, because not doing so would be a lost opportunity.

 

So my request for advice is two-fold: How do I go about meeting people, perhaps in my local art community, and how do I go about contacting this particular woman without giving a weird vibe?

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Don't contact her unless you can genuinely want only friendship with her! She's pulled her profile down, she's not looking to date.

 

Definitely try and meet your local art people though. There's a suburb in my city that has an artists forum, I think they all get together and use a communal space and put on art shows. Can you potentially upskill and take a master class in something? I'm sure your local art galleries could point you in the direction of artists social events.

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Don't contact her unless you can genuinely want only friendship with her! She's pulled her profile down, she's not looking to date.

Thank you, 1a1a, but respectfully, I think we're getting too deep into hypotheticals. I've never even communicated with her, so it's impossible to know what would happen. I might get completely ignored and that'll be the end of it. I just know that I want to approach her, both for the sake of both networking in the art community and perhaps romantically, but that's based largely in speculation.

 

Also, some people get overwhelmed by the style of online dating and drop it simply because of that, so we can't know whether or not she's actually willing to date.

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