Should I give up on him?

[Anenlou]

I have been seeing this guy for a few months now. Whenever we're together it's great. We got very comfortable pretty fast. But he's still hung up on his ex. A while ago he told me he booked a vacation with her and he wanted to be friends. This was fine by me. But after a few times of hanging out as friends, he broke down and told me he didn't want me to feel as a second choice, and that he thought getting serious with me would be better than going back to his ex. Since that moment we kinda picked up where we left off. But he's still going on this holiday with her and he doesn't make a decision between being with her or me.

I'm not sure how much I mind. Maybe more than I want to accept. But I'm just happy whenever we're hanging out. I'm not the one who is against dating multiple people at the same time. But it's tough since it's his ex, and I know there is a chance he will end it with me because of her.

Should I end it now to keep myself from hurting, tell him he has to make a decision or accept the situation and keep seeing him?

[MissCanuck]

Yes, end it now.

 

He is still in love with her, and they are spending time together. This is not something to "accept," it is a sign that he is not ready to date anyone else yet.

[glitterfingers]

How do you feel when you're not hanging out? Doubtful and concerned when he's not around are indicators of a bad situation. If that's not enough to convince you to end it, I'd echo the above advice

[Andrina]

No, I'd never tell some guy to pick me over another like it's some reality show competition. If I'm not the one and only, I'm out of there until I found someone so crazy about me that he doesn't consider anyone else. Vacationing with another woman while dating you? Hell no. Someone far better is your fate.

[DancingFool]

Why on earth are you wasting your time on this? He is still very much in love with his ex and not over her. You are just a void filler/place holder/bed warmer/rebound chic, aka totally disposable. What will happen OP, is that either he'll convince his ex to get back with him or he'll eventually start getting over her and get rid of the both of you. Her, because he is finally over her and you because you were never anything more than a crutch and something he no longer needs. For you, this is a flat out lose/lose situation. Find better for yourself.

[DaisyMayPorter]

Oh my goodness, you should not even be asking this question! You need to end it now. He should not be with anyone else if he's with you and he certainly shouldn't be going on vacation with her! Yikes. Please call him right now.

[figureitout23]

Please read posts here. I know you probably don't want to believe he would do this to you, but I can count at least 2 times this week where a poster was with a rebound but still writing about their ex. If you notice their rebound isn't even a blip. Its like they're props. Please don't do this to yourself, at the very least give him time to decide with a clear mind.