Imalwayssad Posted December 7, 2017 Share Posted December 7, 2017 For a little over a year I’ve been seeing this guy. Problem? He has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for around 5 years and I knew her. We’ve had sex a lot and sometimes we’d just hang out and talk. I’m single but the guy gets jealous if see or hear about me talking to another man. He’s even gotten into an argument with one of my male friends who was coming onto me. Now we can’t be together so why is getting jealous? I like him a lot so I can’t deny that. We’ve been too comfortable with each other the past few months and I just don’t want to cause anymore problems we’ve already brewed if our relationship gets out. For the most part I just wish we were friends. How can I end our sexual relationship and just be friends? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honeycomb8 Posted December 7, 2017 Share Posted December 7, 2017 You block him and work on yourself. I don't know why people do these things, but it takes someone completely selfish, with no empathy to sleep with their friend's bf for this long. Sigh, poor gf. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatwasThen Posted December 7, 2017 Share Posted December 7, 2017 For a little over a year I’ve been seeing this guy. Problem? He has been in a relationship with his girlfriend for around 5 years and I knew her. We’ve had sex a lot and sometimes we’d just hang out and talk. I’m single but the guy gets jealous if see or hear about me talking to another man. He’s even gotten into an argument with one of my male friends who was coming onto me. Now we can’t be together so why is getting jealous? I like him a lot so I can’t deny that. We’ve been too comfortable with each other the past few months and I just don’t want to cause anymore problems we’ve already brewed if our relationship gets out. For the most part I just wish we were friends. How can I end our sexual relationship and just be friends? He gets jealous because he's an A**h*** cheater who doesn't want his woMEN to have other sex partners besides him. You are a selfish and insecure woman that allows men like him, to be who they are (AH cheaters). I don't say this with malice but I have to ask, what is wrong with you that you would settle for this mess you've woven yourself into? You can't be friends with someone you have been so addicted to that you have given up all personal boundaries, self respect and common sense to be with. You need to go cold turkey withdrawl through zero contact so that you can rehab from your addiction to him. If you try to keep yourself in his life, you are too weak to be able to keep it strictly platonic. Its like an alcoholic that says they'll only drink on the weekends. THAT lasts about two or three weekends and then they are right back at it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DancingFool Posted December 7, 2017 Share Posted December 7, 2017 Is this a joke? How do you stop sleeping with a filthy scum who is cheating on his gf? How about a big fat NO and then you delete this filth from your life. Then you get your head screwed on straight and figure out why the heck did you ever demean yourself like that. It's beyond pathetic on your part. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetGirl28 Posted December 7, 2017 Share Posted December 7, 2017 Easy. You tell him. And while you're at it, tell his gf too. I'm sure there are others besides the two of you. Everyone should get tested for STD's and then you need to cut him from your life. How can you be friends? He isn't being one to you. He's using you. If you were strictly in a FWB relationship where you could be with others, there would be no issue. Problem is, he's in a committed relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imalwayssad Posted December 7, 2017 Author Share Posted December 7, 2017 I get what you’re saying but I had no empathy because she wasn’t my friend. I knew her yes but we weren’t friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DancingFool Posted December 7, 2017 Share Posted December 7, 2017 I get what you’re saying but I had no empathy because she wasn’t my friend. I knew her yes but we weren’t friends. ....so on what planet does that make what you did OK?.....please tell me you are just trolling..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Honeycomb8 Posted December 7, 2017 Share Posted December 7, 2017 So? As a decent human being you should have thought passed your sexual desire and considered other people? Like this is freakin common sense. Jeez it's actually screwed up. Believe me, when you meet someone and then date them for years, I sure hope that you wouldn't have to experience the absolute devastation that your actions have potentially caused someone. It's bad karma. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatwasThen Posted December 7, 2017 Share Posted December 7, 2017 I get what you’re saying but I had no empathy because she wasn’t my friend. I knew her yes but we weren’t friends. What is sad is that you've been stagnating yourself in a sexual relationship with a dawg for years yet its just now that you don't want to "cause anymore problems." To who, yourself because he won't leave her for you? Good lord sista..... Please get into therapy to help you with your self-worth, your self-respect, your personal boundaries so that you can believe that you deserve more then a d-bag cheater who likes you for one thing only. It must be very lonely for you during the holidays when he can't/won't be with you because he's with his partner. Where is the empathy for yourself? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imalwayssad Posted December 7, 2017 Author Share Posted December 7, 2017 What is sad is that you've been stagnating yourself in a sexual relationship with a dawg for years yet its just now that you don't want to "cause anymore problems." To who, yourself because he won't leave her for you? Good lord sista..... Please get into therapy to help you with your self-worth, your self-respect, your personal boundaries so that you can believe that you deserve more then a d-bag cheater who likes you for one thing only. It must be very lonely for you during the holidays when he can't/won't be with you because he's with his partner. Where is the empathy for yourself? It’s not lonely for me during the holidays actually Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatwasThen Posted December 7, 2017 Share Posted December 7, 2017 It’s not lonely for me during the holidays actually Does he leave her to be with you then? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissCanuck Posted December 7, 2017 Share Posted December 7, 2017 You won't be able to be just friends with this guy, OP. He only wants you for sex. Friendship won't appeal to him, because he doesn't value you. Why do you not have higher standards for yourself? Forget this bottom-feeder and work on your own boundaries and sense of self-worth. You've lost it somewhere along the way to allow yourself to behave like this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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