halfinhalfout Posted December 6, 2017 Share Posted December 6, 2017 My ex finally told me why he broke up with me. Long story short, he was very hurt and resentful of the fact that I didn't do some things he wanted me to do. But the thing is, he never asked me to do them. An example of this would be not going to a music festival with him that I wasn't able to attend because of money (a couple thousand dollars for VIP tickets, hotel, flight, etc). The concert apparently meant a lot more to him than I thought. I knew he loved going to this every year but I didn't realize how important it was for me to be there because he always went with a group of close friends and this year was no exception. He admitted that he had actually bought a ticket for me but didn't tell me because he wanted me to ask him to do it (he's very wealthy and I'm not). The ticket went to waste. He claims he dropped hints here or there but I didn't pick up on them. He even acknowledged that no, he didn't tell me anything directly and even lied on a few occasions but he still holds it against me. He believes that this is a result of us being "incompatible". Maybe we are, but even in this conversation I told him that if I had only known about what bothered him I would have done my best to make him happy. I also told him once again how much I love him and that now that he had finally communicated the issues to me we could feasibly give our relationship another chance with this knowledge going forward (we had no other issues during the year we were together). He doesn't want to hear it and thinks he's better off without me. Is this emotional abuse? If so, is there a term for it? And is it ever okay to break up with someone because they couldn't read your mind? I love him and never, ever wanted to hurt him. Also, worth noting, at 27 years old I am his only girlfriend ever. Maybe that has something to do with this? Any insight would be much appreciated. I'm having a lot of confusion and pain and trouble letting this go. Link to comment
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