Hollyj Posted December 3, 2017 Author Share Posted December 3, 2017 I wouldn't state it again out of nowhere, don't bring it up unless it is relevent and he is addressing this particular instance. You have made your stance clear. I doubt he will bring it up again, but my advice is for any friend that oversteps your boundaries. You let them know, and I don't think they mean to offend but they know now that they can't be on that level of openness to you so they watch what they say more. If this friend repeatedly makes rude remarks, knowing how they make you feel, then perhaps distancing yourself would be a better option. I remember I once had a friend who said he hates black people. I took offense, especially since my brother is black, and basically told him it wasn't ok he said that and stated it was ignorant. He still defended his position, but clearly knew I didn't like that kind of talk and didn't do it again. However, I wasn't good friends with this person (my much closer friends were, and he hosted parties with them) anyway so there was no problem in the future. He now knows better and, usually, that is enough for a person to change how they talk around you. I can't believe he said that. Did he know that you had a black brother? How could he defend that position? Link to comment
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.