estrellalife Posted November 16, 2017 Share Posted November 16, 2017 Hello there! I recently posted about problems in my relationship, specially a difference of values between us. I have decided that these issues are grounds for breaking up, and I no longer see a future in this relationship. I know breaking up is the right thing to do, but I am worried about his reaction. I think that I ammore aware of these issues than he is, and that he will be blindsided with this information. He has a history of chemical dependency, but has had a long period of sobriety, and has not used while we have been together. Not too long ago he had a very stressful situation and told me that it made him want to use/relapse. I am afraid that if I break up with him, he might lose it and relapse. I know that I am not responsible for his sobriety, but I cannot help but feel concerned about the well-being of someone I care about so deeply. For many years we both thought that this relationship would lead to marriage, and it will be very shocking to him to learn that I do not feel this way anymore. Is there any way that I can break up with him that will be less shocking? Do you think it is appropriate to reach out to his support system after the break-up so that they are aware? I had thought about planning the break up right before he goes to meet up with a family member so that I know he will not be alone during the initial shock. Looking for constructive advice. Thank you! Link to comment
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