Astrogirllibra Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 We broke up 2 years ago because of me but had a very tight bond/friendship. I still miss him to this day and wish he was in my life and have thinking about him a lot lately. Should I send him a message & tell him how I feel or just leave the situation alone? I haven't heard from him in 2 years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissCanuck Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 If you haven't heard anything for 2 years, then I think it's safe to say he has moved on. One never knows, of course, but it likely won't bring the results you're seeking. Why did you break up? Do you know if he's even still single? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsbannapple Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 I don't think it is a good idea to contact him. If he has a girlfriend then definitely do not talk to him. Figure out why exactly you are missing him. Are you lonely? Was he good for you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glitterfingers Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 I think enough time has passed that you won't be too upset if you don't get a positive response, so I see no harm in reaching out so long as you're aware that he might 1) not respond, 2) not want to say much, or 3) only be open to a very casual friendship. In the very least, you won't wonder "what if". So if you're mostly healed and just want to know how he is, sure. Reach out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
limichelle Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 I don't see the harm as long as you know it may not be the results you want. I reached out to my ex a year after our break up and all I got was negativity about our past relationship. Even though I was healed I felt like it haunted me his words for some time afterwards. Just be careful is all I ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andrina Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 It depends on the reason you broke up. If you cheated, I'd suggest not, since that sort of infraction is hard to forgive. If it was because of something less egregious and you've improved in that area since, then I'd say sure, ask if he wants to meet up for coffee if you won't be devastated if he's taken or not interested. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kbbcoop77 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 Why go back to an ex?? There’s billions of others on the planet. You’re just reminiscing about good times which is fine but I advise keeping exes where they are..in the past Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rustysuit Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 If you haven't heard anything for 2 years, then I think it's safe to say he has moved on. One never knows, of course, but it likely won't bring the results you're seeking. Why did you break up? Do you know if he's even still single? Depends on who dumped who and why. I'll never contact my ex-gf, not in a million years, but I'd be overjoyed to hear from her again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clio Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 We broke up 2 years ago because of me I highly doubt anything good could come out of contacting him. It sounds like you are lonely and looking for someone to fill that void rather than this being about him per se, or you would have contacted him sooner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abitbroken Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 Nope. If you naturally run into eachother by chance that's one ting, but you are going to get hurt if you contact him and 1) he changed his number 2) he doesn't react well to hearing from you 3) he is in a new relationship or even engaged. There is little good that can come of it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyLifeMyChoice Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 I’d say, go for it. Whatever the outcome is, at least you’ll find out once you actually act on it. Would you rather live your life wondering what if? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetGirl28 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 Depends on who dumped who and why. I'll never contact my ex-gf, not in a million years, but I'd be overjoyed to hear from her again. Just out of curiosity, why would you not contact her, yet be overjoyed if she contacted you? What stops you from doing it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kbbcoop77 Posted November 11, 2017 Share Posted November 11, 2017 Just out of curiosity, why would you not contact her, yet be overjoyed if she contacted you? What stops you from doing it? It’s called self esteem..and I would only be ecstatic if my ex contacted me so I could tell her which bridge to jump off of Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetGirl28 Posted November 12, 2017 Share Posted November 12, 2017 It’s called self esteem..and I would only be ecstatic if my ex contacted me so I could tell her which bridge to jump off of Lol, I was asking rustysuit, but yeah I hear ya on that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueberry33 Posted December 3, 2017 Share Posted December 3, 2017 Given that it sounds like you did the dumping, I would suggest reaching out if he's not in another relationship or if the relationship didn't end because of unhealthy reasons (i.e. cheating or abuse). In two years, he's probably moved on but you never know. Maybe enough time has passed for you guys to have a fresh start. You might not get the reply you're looking for but I think it's better then wondering why. He might not have ever reached out because you did the dumping, and he's been assuming you don't want anything to do with him romantically anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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