dating

[Becky223]

I'm new at dating haven't dated for 25 years I went out on my 1st date he was great we had aw wonderful time the next day he asked me what I was doing for my birthday and we made plans but he want ed to see me before that so we went out on the 2nd date had another great date then that Thursdays my b day he took to a great dinner , we kissed and said our goodbyes that was the 3rd date he said hope to see you next week he was going out of town to play golf with his buddies its now Monday he is back in town but hasn't contacted me for the 4th date yet should I be worried that he won't, this is all so new to me - he did say after the 2nd date that it seems like he had known me longer, he gives me buterflies and he told me on our 3rd date that I give him chills - should I calm down and just chill or what/

[jimthzz]

How much time has passed? How old are the both of you?

 

Anxiety doesn't help

[Becky223]

My birthday was o the 2nd today is the 6th I'm 56 he is 63

[nutbrownhare]

One of the things which can come as a bit of a shock when you get back into the dating scene at the age of 50+, especially if you'd been resigned to being single for ever, is that you go through all the same highs and anxieties you used to go through as a teenager - but feeling a bit rusty.

 

Basically, you hardly know the guy and are going through the hormone-fuelled early stages of a relationship, which feel like being high. It's easy to think you know the other person much better than you do because the gaps are filled in by fantasy, but even knowing this doesn't stop the heart-pounding, stomach-knotting sensations.

 

Calm down if you can; is there any reason you can't contact him rather than wondering if he'll contact you? How much do you know of his personal circumstances, i.e. ex-wife, current wife, other women he may be in contact with?

[DancingFool]

How long since he has been back from his trip?

After three dates that he organized, I would think that you need to show some initiative yourself and contact him. Ask about his trip. Your turn to show some effort and interest.

[DanZee]

Yes, there's no reason why you can't call him to see how he's doing. Ask him about his golfing and so forth. It wasn't that unusual for girls to call boys in the 1980s. Don't just wait for him to do everything. He might think you don't care.