My boyfriend makes me unhappy

[Moonpie215]

Hi I was told to post on here by my sister

because she said you would give me honest advice. My boyfriend makes me feel really unhappy. I cry every day at least once either because he has called me names, ignored me or been angry at me. I went to pick my little boy up for a party at 7pm and I stayed for 20 minutes to talk to one of the mums. When I got home all he did was glare at me and not talk to me - it's because I was out too long. This happens every time I do anything and I'm away for too long.

 

If I have an opinion he thinks nothing of calling me every name under the sun.

 

He tells me that I don't do enough around the house - it's almost perfect but never good enough.

 

For his 30th birthday I was about to plan a surprise night away and he told me he wanted to go out drinking with his friends without me and I was selfish for wanting to stop him doing that. I just wanted to make him happy.

 

Nothing I do is ever good enough, I've lost all my confidence, can't have an opinion or disagree with anything he says or he tells lies about me to his family and calls me names and threatens to throw me out. He's thrown a suitcase at me and slammed the lid on my arm, and if I start crying he says that it's my fault he gets in my face and calls me names because I made him mad.

 

What do I do?

[Nips927]

He I read one paragraph and I have to say is he's abusive and controlling, and you should leave

[willdation]

I would say tell him that you want to be treated nicer. Wait a few weeks and see if there is an improvement and if he has changed. If no, then leave.

[MissCanuck]

You dump him.

 

This man is an abuser, full stop. Get out before he seriously injures you or your child. Show your boy that real men don't behave like the loser you live with.

[Jibralta]

Leave him. He is abusive and controlling.

[Blue Berry]

I am so sorry you're going through this. You don't deserve any of this. Your boyfriend is abusive and controlling and you should leave him immediately, otherwise he'll only keep on trying to control your life as if you were his property, which you are not!!! You're an independent human being, you should never submit yourself to anyone like this, okay? If he tells you he loves you and/or tries to justify his actions with that argument he's lying. And not only he tries to control you but also he'll try to do the same to your child and your family (he might be already doing that behind your back, since he lies about you to his family). Get out of this relationship before he does something worse.

[Sportster2005]

You're in an abusive relationship. Leave.

[fabact]

Agree with everyone here. Abusive relationships will destroy you and your child ultimately. You're going to have to be brave and leave.

[abitbroken]

I hope that he is not the father of your little boy so that you can just up and leave. This is a terrible situation for you and your child

[Unreasonable]

Looks like he hasn't learned one of life's basic lessons: Don't be an a__h_le. Some people never do. One of his lessons may be losing you, and he needs it. You are doing him NO favors by staying with him and letting him think this is acceptable behavior.

[Mikey383]

He I read one paragraph and I have to say is he's abusive and controlling, and you should leave

 

AGREEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Total abuse....mental, emotional...u name it...

Abusive and controlling....