My life doesn’t feel real anymore

[Heartbroken SH]

Hi, I broke up with my bf of 16 months, we’ve had a few fight, small things which blew up cause he has a temper. Two weeks ago was our last, it was a stupid fight but I woke up in the morn to find him and all his things gone, keys posted back in the letterbox. No text nothing, I begged him for two days to come back, no good. He move 6 hours away to his home so I was left devastated. A week later he texts saying he misses us and wants to come back, that he was really happy with me, obvs at first I’m so happy but don’t show it but the next day I was a little mad about him walking out and showing no remorse so I started to see how far I could push him and it wasn’t long til he was back saying he didn’t miss me, getting back together wasn’t right and he should never of said anything. So I’m left devastated again! Begging him again to not leave me but then I stopped and we’ve had no contact in days. I posted back every gift he ever gave me. Like how to you treat someone you love like this. I don’t know what to do.

[boltnrun]

Why did you think seeing how far you could push him was a good idea?

[rosephase]

He left you flat. He has a temper. You two fight a bunch. What exactly do you want back?

 

Don't play head games with what you want. It's dishonest and a waste of time. If you need to hear that he is sorry (understandably) ask for that. Don't try to manipulate.. that's such an unhealthy approach.

[Heartbroken SH]

No idea, cause he pushes me and he was showing no remorse for just walking out and then saying he didn’t walk out on me that he was taking a break, even though he took all his stuff.

[Heartbroken SH]

I agree with all you’ve said. It’s just very hard to let go but he said Wednesday that we were done for good so I don’t have a choice anymore.

[Pto29538]

If these rows were just about small things then they could be resolved so it appears there is more underlying this . The fact you didn’t jump for joy when he said he wanted you back is normal . He showed no remorse and left you hanging for days so it’s natural you reacted that way even if it was out of anger . Of course you are hurt now but if this is the what happens when you have small rows then is he the type of partner you want around .

[boltnrun]

No idea, cause he pushes me and he was showing no remorse for just walking out and then saying he didn’t walk out on me that he was taking a break, even though he took all his stuff.

 

This just illustrates clearly that you two do not belong together. The relationship has become toxic.