jenga1 Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 I was very close friends with my girlfriend for 4 months, all our friends knew the relationship was a matter of time, so it wasnt just in my head. After 4 months we finally kissed, and we have new been going out since. It is now 4 months into the relationship and she tells me that she slept with her ex the day after we first kissed, but that she has no feelings for him, she just needed to feel wanted by him that nightt, and she didnt even think we were anything back then so she hasnt felt guilt about it until now. For what its worth, I am 26. The long and short of it is that my girlfriend slept with her ex, during a stage I assumed exclusivity. I know we did not discuss being exclusive as it was only the day after we first kissed, and I know it would not be normal to assume this, however we shared 4 close months together as friends before this, spending 2 or 3 days a week alone together. The night we kissed she told me it felt as though we had been together for ages as we has spent so much time together, she texted me to let me know she got home safe and said ‘you are on my lips and this is a wonderful feeling’. For me to go sleep with someone the night after she said that would be unthinkable. However, for her it was not even worth thinking twice about. I still feel as though I was played, and because of this it makes me look at her differently to the woman I grew to love. The night we talked before we kissed, she said ‘I feel as though we are so close, and I would like to explore this side of things with you’. Her expressions of delight after we kissed were also a memory I held. The next night she slept with another man. 12 hours after waking up with him she texted me to come meet her and your friends, we kissed and had a lovely night. She wanted to end the night early because she was tired- and this was because she was up all night with him. The following day she asked me to come over for lunch, and has since told me her plan was to get me in her garden with my clothes off. She asked me to stay that night because there ‘was so many nice things to do’. Now I am in a position where I cant look at her the same. I used to look at her as my precious girl, and feel an unblievable love fore her. Now i look at her an cant help but feel as though i dont even know her, she seems trashy and doesnt seem to be mine. I still care about her so much, and i want to feel as strongly about her as I did, but am wondering if this relationship is dead? Link to comment
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