Birdy989 Posted October 26, 2017 Share Posted October 26, 2017 I recently went through a horrible break up when my partner of 10 years left me. As far as I know he was faithful all those years but was obviously thinking about being with someone else for a while. He said he was leaving as he felt he wanted to be with someone else and although he claims he didn't cheat on me he was with a new girlfriend within days of leaving. He starts seeing someone right on my doorstep so I know who she is, where she lives, see his car outside her house and it is all incredibly painful for me. We were no contact for a few weeks while i tried to get over the breakup, and avoid bumping into them which would be hell, then he starts messaging me telling me he loves me although I'm sure he is still seeing this other girl. After another week he says he wants to talk about us getting back together. He said he had ended things with the other girl. I was thrilled as I desperately wanted us to get back together, even though i know he would have slept with her while we were broken up. I figure i can get over it. See it for what he said it was - one mistake, and he regretted it. We spend a lot of time talking over a few days and have sex twice. Then he confesses he hasn't actually ended it with the other girl. He basically had spent a week cheating in her with me. Now he has cut contact with me again, told me he wants to be with her. I don't want him back after what he has done and all the lies. Do I tell the new girl that he cheated? If it were me I would want to know. I would want to make an informed decision about what I'm getting into. I know I'll look like a spiteful or possibly crazy ex, but I have evidence in his text messages with me so I can prove it. I admit a bit of me wants revenge on him, but I haven't got anything against her - she presumably knows nothing about this and has been lied to as well. I just hate cheating and don't think anyone should get away with it. What should i do?? Link to comment
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