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Me and my ex broke up about one week ago, and we were together for three years (I posted the whole story here). I am 19 years old and he is the only one I have been together with. He is the one I lost my virginity to, and he lost it to me too. He is basically the first one I have done everything and anything with. The break up has had a big impact on me, and I am really starting to feel anxious about the future. I am the type of girl that can not have sex with just anyone, so I know that the next one will be someone that I have been together with for months, and that I have a serious relationship with. But one of the positive things about my ex is that we lost our virginity too each other, as I said. I really loved that I was his first, and maybe his only if it would go that far.. So my problem right now, is that I am thinking a lot about who I am going to meet in the future, and I am so afraid of not meeting a guy that hasn´t had sex with just anyone. I don´t know why this is so important to me and why I am so fixated on it, but I just am. I just feel like most guys or men have had sex with a lot of girls, and I really can´t take that. So my question is, it is possible for me to find anyone in the future that hasn´t had it with a lot of people? if not, how can I get over this fear?

 

I feel really stupid and weird about writing all this, but it is making me so anxious and bothering me a lot. So I really hope that someone can help me..

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Well, I'm pretty sure that if you meet a guy that has your same morals and sensibilities then he won't have had THAT many sexual partners that his dangly bits are set to fall off... I think that you'd be feeling better if you put your fears on hold until you meet a guy that you have interest in and it's mutual and the relationship is advancing. I don't think it will be as important to you as you are thinking it is right now.

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