When someone's advances are too aggressive

[chelsea13]

I met a male friend over a new project that I am doing. He is very caring, smart and nice, and basically has many qualities that I look for in a partner. But the problem is I am not attracted to him at all so I think for now it is better to just be friends. However, I am quite sure that he likes me and is being a bit aggressive with his approach. Am I being too sensitive? Or is he really being too aggressive?

 

For example, he taught me to drive a few times. As I steer the wheels, he would put his hand on my hand to control the wheels. His hand is just kept on mine for a very long time.

Another instance is, he wants to fix at switch at my home. I told him it's ok, it's not bothering me and the landlord doesn't like it when things get changed in the house. In fact I just don't want himto come at night. He then invited himself and says that he can fix it iin a way that the landlord doesn't notice. I still rejected. A few days later, he said he brought exactly the same switch so the landlord would not notice.

He always finds a way to touch me.. like I was trying to climb up a rock and struggling a bit, he then came over and put his hands under my armpits and carried me up. I was quite uncomfortable. He also touches my lap to wake me up when I fell asleep in his car, and he tried to hold me close to him once when we were walking in a park.

Once we were in a cramped train (my other female friend was present), and everyone were sitting closely, and he deliberately put his hand very close to mine, almost touching them a lot.

 

I admit I have been very friendly with him, but I don't think I have flirted all that much. I have however, accepted his favours sometimes like picking me up from airport etc. But please tell me if he is being too aggressive with his approach or am I just sensitive? I have now started to be a bit less responsive to his texts.

[Keyman]

Have you told him straight up that you are not interested in him in tht way? You know, with words, from your mouth? Have you told him that you don't like it when he touches you so much, it makes you feel uncomfortable?

[luminousone]

Stop hanging out with him.

[catfeeder]

Relegate him to acquaintance then, and be kind when your paths cross, but stop accepting favors and hanging out with him.