Cheated And Lied To

[gracieambriz]

So, 6 months back a former coworker of mine, let's call her "Becky" told me my boyfriend had been on an anonymous site called Whisper and had encountered her. She claims he sent her a picture of himself and asked her to meet him at his job for a hookup. I asked her to describe him and how he looked in the picture but failed to do so accurately. Becky also let me know that said incident had occurred a year and a half prior to her telling me this information, and that she was advised to keep it to herself to spare me the heartache. Becky was our former neighbor, and heard most of our arguments and probably anything else we did. I know she heard things because she was the neighbor who called the police on us almost constantly for aguing. It makes sense to a point, we were arguing a lot at the time of said accusation and we were on the rocks but the thing is, he denies anything remotely similar or at all ever happened. I looked through his phone back then a couple of times and found nothing. But more recently I did find that he had been on a "live.me" app but though his browser and not through the actual app. He says he wouldn't be with me if he didn't want to be but one night a few months ago we were arguing once again and he started sobbing and told me he needed to say something to me. We sat down, and he couldn't get it out. He just cried. So, he never ended up telling me what he wanted to say. Any input helps and I'll gladly ask any questions. Thank you.

[DanZee]

I would be interested in hearing why you're arguing all the time. There's something wrong with the relationship if youo're always arguing. What are you arguing about?

[ThatwasThen]

What is the actual thing you're wanting opinions on? Is it Becky and her accusation or is it about you and your partner's arguments?

[Starlight925]

told me he needed to say something to me. We sat down, and he couldn't get it out. He just cried. So, he never ended up telling me what he wanted to say. Any input helps and I'll gladly ask any questions. Thank you.

 

I would wait until a time that you are both in a good place, getting along well, and then very casually tell him that you'll be glad to hear what it is he wanted to say to you.

 

And yes, figure out the nature of your arguing, as that definitely leads to a belief that the relationship isn't going well.

[gracieambriz]

We were arguing because I was insecure and jealous for honestly no reason, but as of lately it's turned more into arguing because of the accusation. I was hoping for advice or opinions on the accusation situation. I just don't know how to live with this!