Fiance's stress and anxiety.

[JMyze]

In January, my fiance and I moved from the Midwest to the east coast and a city that is a high tourist area. We decided to move here because we were bored of the Midwestern way of life and wanted a change, and also because I have family here as well. We both agreed and were looking forward to being here, but my fiance has been unhappy about the increased temperature and higher volume of traffic. I must admit that the traffic here is pretty bad, and it stresses him out big time. He has always been a more moody and anxious person than the average guy. He hates crowds and he's not a people person, very introverted. I am to a point but he;s worse than me, and worse than anyone else I have met.

 

He keeps telling me that he feels like he needs to escape all the hustle and bustle. I told him we can think about going elsewhere but it will take time to figure out where and set a budget. In the meantime, I suggested to him that he see a doctor and maybe he can get on some anti-anxiety meds to help take the edge off, but he's acting uninterested.

 

Other than that, I don't really know what to tell him. I feel bad that he doesn't like it here, but I don't know how else to be supportive. It's hard enough for me to keep my cool when he has nothing but negative things to say about people, places, and things whenever we leave our house. When we are in the house all day on our day off from work, everything is great. Once we have to go and do anything, he acts like he's been tortured by God or something. I just don't know what he wants. I don't know how to be of better support to him.

[hopelessromcom]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, I understand how you feel as if there is no way you feel like you can support your fiancee. The idea of seeing a doctor is a good one as I feel it might be useful. Maybe start off with baby steps? Let him get a feel for the new place a little bit before just dumping into a crowd of people. Go to a small bar or a restaurant near by. Let him feel more comfortable with his surroundings and hopefully eventually he will get used to the city. Moving sounds like a far away plan and he needs to accept that, wish you all the best