idontknowatall Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 Keeping gender out of this, it only seems to bring trouble or bias. My ex has some severe, untreated mental illness(es) and has been detached from reality for some time now. The kids don't really talk to them unless it's sort of pushed-for. They don't ask how ex is doing, don't seem to care as ex never acknowledged the issues, never sought treatment and doesn't seem to be headed that way in the foreseeable future. I worry for my ex, I worry for their safety, housing, mental stability, I worry if they're eating (ex was not healthy, was losing weight rapidly and didn't seem able to fend without constant intervention) I worry my kids are going to lose their other parent permanently and that the chance for some kind of reintegration into their lives will never happen. The kids miss their other parent dearly, but not in exes' current state. In the current state, ex is basically an uncaring, unfeeling, unloving statue. They see it, they recognize it, they have come to terms with it as best they can over the past year or so. I just wonder if it's okay to ask from time to time "are you okay?", "how are you doing?" or if there's anything I can do (within reason) for them. I'm not trying to reach out to get back together, I just worry about their well-being and want to ensure things don't get so out of hand that they become 100% unrecoverable. I worry about having to tell my kids their other parent is either missing or dead and that their last memories are of a deluded shell that sort of resembled them. How do I reach out without making it seem like I'm looking to get them back? How do I reach out without making it sound like I'm patronizing them? Link to comment
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