beternal Posted October 8, 2017 Share Posted October 8, 2017 I'm one of those people that likes to give people a chance and I'm wondering if I'm going about this the right way... I'm not the sort that sees a wonky nose, annoying laugh, uneducated, or even disability and thinks *deal-breaker* - I believe that everyone has qualities that aren't always seen on a first date and therefore unless the girl does something *unforgivable* like insisting we go to a super-expensive restaurant and then crosses her arms when the bill comes, sends me a video of her and her ex having sex to show me what I have to look forward to, or is on her phone the entire first date (all have happened to me!) - then I'm usually pretty open about giving it a chance. But this means that the dating period is extended and after weeks or maybe even months I realise she is not *marriage potential*. Then comes the breakup, bu which time she might have developed strong feelings for me! = heartbreak. Am I going about this wrong? - I am honestly trying to give her 100% of a chance but then you just realise she's not the one and at that moment you feel like you've been using her. I'm not even talking about sex, I try to hold that off as long as I can so as NOT to rush things! I guess I am just worried about being *too* picky and maybe missing out on a nice girl because I'm too quick to judge... But I'm early 30s now and I'm feeling the clock... Experiences? Opinions? Advice? Link to comment
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