Want a baby at 21

[Sanders6127]

Hello,

The past half a year or so I have been wanting a baby SO badly and it's starting to really take effect on me. I'm not in any sort of position to have a baby...

But it's starting to take over my life, I can't go a day without crying because of this and I just feel completely empty knowing I can't have one.

Just wondering if this is normal or if you think something else is going on

[ThatwasThen]

I think you should make an appointment with your doctor for a referral to a therapist to help you figure yourself out. Are you even in a relationship with a reliable man that has shown you he'd be a good father and partner or are you single?

[catfeeder]

Nope, not normal. What kind of professional help have you sought? If you're in school, start with the mental health counseling your tuition has already paid for.

[pippy longstocking]

I just feel completely empty knowing I can't have one.

 

Have you been told this medically

[MissCanuck]

When you say you can't have a baby, do you mean it won't ever be physically/medically possible? Or are you just upset that you can't have one right now?

[abitbroken]

Hello,

The past half a year or so I have been wanting a baby SO badly and it's starting to really take effect on me. I'm not in any sort of position to have a baby...

But it's starting to take over my life, I can't go a day without crying because of this and I just feel completely empty knowing I can't have one.

Just wondering if this is normal or if you think something else is going on

 

I agree that you should see a counselor. You should NOT think about actively trying to have a baby until you are married and are in a trade or have finished college and have a job. I will say that you should look into big brothers/big sisters if you feel you are old enough to mentor a child that needs someone. I also suggest that you see if you can get a part time job anywhere like a preschool or somewhere where you can get a taste of what its like to be around cranky children with messy diapers. You might decide you want to wait until you are older really quickly.