ColdCouch Posted October 6, 2017 Share Posted October 6, 2017 I saw a story in the paper the other day and it made me wonder: if you have a child (or children) from a previous marriage, but are married (or maybe not legally married but simply partnered up with a different man/woman long term), what is the proper "inheritance etiquette" (for lack of a better term) in terms of diving up money and resources? I know different states and places have different laws in terms of how to legally divide up things when wills are contested, but I'm talking more about setting up a will for your partner but having to think about your children whom you did not have with your partner. What's the "right" thing to do? I would think if you truly loved your partner, just like with any will, you would see them as equal thus want to take care of them first before your children. The money and assets usually go towards the spouse/partner first, no? I mean, it usually does when the two people SHARE the child/ren in common, because then you assume the remaining parent will then pass on the money and assets again finally to the children when they die. But in today's world there are so many mixed families and such, that I just wonder how people do it. How do you take care of a person you partner up with and make sure they are cared after, yet still make sure your own children don't get left out, too? Do you divide things equally amongst them all? But is that fair? Do you have the mentality "they will always be my kids and the partner is replaceable, thus the kids get most, if not all of, the money and resources?" But then again if I was the partner, I'd be insulted and wonder why I was even with the other person if they neglect to take care of me in the will when they pass on. If they value their children over me and leave me high and dry, it would make me question the relationship and how much they really saw me as an equal and loved me. So what do you all think? How would you do things? (This scenario is assuming, too, that the couple do not share any children together whatsoever.) Link to comment
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