MrsCumberbatch Posted October 4, 2017 Share Posted October 4, 2017 My boyfriend and I have had a year long on and off relationship which was quite traumatic at times. He has a history of commitment issues, struggles with doubt and gives up very easily. The past 2 months were the best times we have ever had - he opened up completely, was very loving, even took me on a trip to his hometown to meet his parents. Everything was going better than ever before. But we had fights. One or two, but he took the second one very personal. It was a comment about someone else which he thought was condescending, but it ended up in a big fight and said it felt like someone pulled the ground away from underneath his feet. He normally would have pulled away immediately but he said he wanted to try and move on from it. We kept seeing each other but he was obviously struggling and distanced himself. After a week, he cancelled a date on the phone and when I pushed for answers he told me he couldn't cope right now and he was having doubts on whether we could make it work, even though he admitted it was feeling very special before. Long story short, we haven't seen each other since. He messaged me two days later and said he was very sorry for what had happened and that he really wanted to break the cycle (of running away every time) and that he was trying. That was a week and a half ago. I gave him some space but whenever I contacted him he was very brief and distant. So I asked him last night how he wanted to go about it. He replied that he honestly didn't know what was best, but that I might want my raincoat back. I reacted with frustration and asked him whether this meant he wanted to break up with me. I realized a minute later that this was a stupid idea - he probably really honestly didn't know - and tried to make good with some nice bla bla that i missed him etc. When he didn't react to that I became upset and complained that his reaction was very harsh and he wasn't fair. His reply (he's a musician).... - I was on my way to a gig. Gigging now. I can't say anything good" I really can't figure out what he meant. - I can't say anything good as in, I want to break up with you? - I cant't say anything good as in, whatever I say you dislike anyway? - I can't say anything good as in, I have no time to write down any structured thoughts right now? Any advice would be helpful, I really don't get down to it. I am not a native speaker. He is. Link to comment
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