Mikey383 Posted October 3, 2017 Share Posted October 3, 2017 So, EX girlfriend dumped me almost 2 months ago, after 2.5 years of being together. She walked out, as she wanted someone better than me. She dumped me once in February, then in May she came back claiming that grass was not greener on the other side, that she was still in love with me. Then towards the end of August she decided that she was not happy and dissatisfied, needed space etc... So she dumped me again over text... Within 2 weeks she was on Match.com looking for someone new and apparently she found someone new.. They been maybe together for a couple of weeks... Regardless, it is a fresh relationship, maybe a re bound? I don't know? I haven't gone out and looked for anyone yet. I decided to take my time and recover. 2.5 years meant a lot to me, and I am not ready to run out there. She was the dumper, so I am sure that she has been planning this well in advance.. Matter of fact I think when she left me the first time, she checked out mentally already then and she came back only because she was lonely, and because I was easy to take her back. So, now she has a new squeeze... However, we do have one mutual friend. He is young and easy to manipulate. He is the only conduit.. As far as I know, she blocked me on everything, there is no way to communicate and I have been doing NC and not reaching out to her. In my opinion the relationship is not repairable, she dumped me, I have no reason to be finding ways to communicate when its unwanted. So, since the break up, this mutual friend (guy/21 year old kid) has been texting me a lot. Asking me if I would take her back? if I am dating anyone?....etc... Checking up on me all the time. I have been nice, polite and not providing too much info. So this last weekend out of the blue, our young mutual friend asks me via text: -"Hey do you want to see something? Are you ready for this?" So, I wait to reply... anyone else curious would be like, sure...send it over... But not me, I am like a detective, and I smelling trouble here... So I tell him: -"If it is anything to do with her, I don't need to see it" He replies: -" Ok I wont send it" I tell him, cool, I don't need to know anything about her... Then he comes back: -"Its just a picture" And then he asks also: -"Are you seeing anyone"? I tell him again, that I don't need to see pictures of her, and I ask him if the picture is of her and some guy? Finally he replies: -"Yes it is" I tell him, that I am glad that she has moved on, and found happiness etc... Nothing harsh, just kind and polite words... Then he comes back: -"Glad you are handling it well, not sitting at home bumming out...etc..." I tell him... NO...I am moving on.... And I tell him, that I am certain he has been talking to her... But he down plays it...Tells me that he has not been in contact with her.... I left it alone after that...I am 43 and have no time to be playing games. What is going on here? Why try to be so sneaky and to find a way to deliver this picture to me? Feels as if someone wanted me to see this picture... Why asking if I am dating anyone? Not sure where the concern about me being bummed out is coming from...? As I am not bummed out.... Anyone? Any ideas? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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