aria87 Posted October 3, 2017 Share Posted October 3, 2017 Hello ENA, I've been a longtime lurker of this page and as I am currently going through a breakup I am looking for some advice on how to move on from my situation. I was dating my bf for almost 8 years, since early college. We essentially ended up breaking up a couple months ago because I wanted to move the relationship forward (marriage) and he coulddn't make up his mind about what he wanted. I was pretty heartbroken about it but I accepted the fact that he did't want to marry me even though over the years he had reassured me that he wanted to and talked about the future. I went into NC right away to help me heal. A couple weeks after our breakup, he started talking to someone else and got into a relationship with her right away which was hurtful to see. Love really is blind because we had other issues but because I loved him so much, I ignored all the other red flags: being indecisive about any major decisions in life; he lies about big and small things, flirts with other women, drinks excessively; very much a selfish person. I don't want to be with him anymore so I'm not looking for advice to get him back but more of how to move on. I'm more just hurt that he moved on so quickly with a new person and after 2 months of dating; they are talking about moving in together and getting pretty serious. Mutual friends have mentioned that he has been dishonest with the new person about our relationship and how it ended; so not sure what he has told her. On my end, I have been working out, hanging out with friends and family, just trying to stay busy but at nighttime, when I'm alone with my thoughts; it gets hard to deal with everything that has happened. Seems like he walked away and found happiness with someone else and Im left trying to deal with this sucky situation on my own. I did end up going on a date recently a few weeks ago which got back to my ex through the grapevine, and I heard that he lost his when he found out but I guess it doesn't really matter now since has someone else. I appreciate any thoughts/advice you can give me on my situation. Can you guys share your stories, experiences of what happened if you were in a similar situation? How did you end up letting go and moving on? What happened once you started moving on? Link to comment
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