iwonttoday Posted October 2, 2017 Share Posted October 2, 2017 SO and I had been having some problems for a few weeks. Me asking for more time and attention and him feeling pressured. Ultimately I pulled a pre-emptive strike and forced the breakup. He's definitely of the avoidant-attachment type so it was pretty textbook - he felt smothered, I leaned in to 'fix it', he pulled back even more so that I'd be the one to do it. There are tons of these stories on here. There were more conversations over the following days. Me saying I wish he'd have told me how he was feeling so we could have addressed things together rather than throwing it all away. Him accepting responsibility for not talking sooner about his doubts. He still maintained a 'past tense' position on things but ultimately agreed to take 2 weeks and see where we're at then. I'm going totally no contact for that two weeks. Completely dark. I'm leaning on friends and family for support with the blues. (And internet strangers!). I'll be taking great care of myself for these two weeks working out and eating well and all that. When we get close to the end of the 2 weeks I'll probably start really thinking about what to say. I do feel like we could make it work. And I hope he changes his mind. It's not super likely. But hoping. Link to comment
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