Should I Try To Fix Our Friendship?

[VeGamer98]

Me and my best friend of 5 almost 6 years are no longer friends due to the biggest argument we have ever had. We had been friends sense middle school but sadly in our junior year she was forced to move and hour away due to being in foster care and there not being anymore left for her to go to in our city. But everything was fine and nothing really changed until our senior.Around that year i started to kind of notice that we weren't talking as much or hanging out as we use too. Mainly because my mom started to not really like her and her and my mom got in a huge fight which caused my mom to block her off my cell and cut off my internet access which i believe defiantly put a strain in our friendship as i could only talk to her when i had wifi we still remained friends tho and did everything we could to stay in contact.But around the middle of that school year i started to notice she started blowing me off for things like my 18th birthday which she said she couldn't go too because she had a date and also forgetting my birthday and telling me happy b'day the day after.My homecoming and my prom that i really wanted her to go too w/ me. The last straw for me was my graduation she told me she was gonna go but she didnt... The day afterwards she texted me asking what i was doing that day and i blew up on her out of fustration and holding back all the times she blew me off for things tht was important to me. so we argued and we ended up blocking each other... Months had past and i was in college and she was too i get a txt for a unsaved # and it was her saying she was sorry and tht we should have lunch so i agreed anyways we made up and everything was fine for months until the blowing me off thing started to happen again. the last straw for me this last time was her cancelling a day before we was suppose to go on her birthday trip that we had planned for months and that i spent weeks putting together.She cancelled saying her biological mom is throwing her a last minute birthday dinner for her even tho her mom knew about the trip. I was mad generally because i spent weeks putting this together, My grandma had died a week before tht so i really needed the trip and if i had cancelled the hotel was still gonna charge me 400 dollars so personally i felt the right to be upset so i nicely sent her a txt telling her how i felt neglected and how i feel like shes going her way and im going mine and how i think this friendship doesn't seem like its gonna work and tht i wish her the best. She replied by cussing me out saying she doesn't care and cussing me out and she called me "Hoe" and then we just got into the biggest fight of all cause we've never called each other out each others name or go into a fight like that so anyways i obviously cussed back and called her names too (Which was wrong) but afterwards she said she was gonna block me and i said i was too which i did. Now fast forward 7 months later and idk if i should message her and try to make up or leave the friendship alone. I know that last time i talked to her she was getting into some bad stuff like weed, alcohol, sleeping around and she had also got arrested for getting into a fight. Which is so not like her but i also worry she's going down a wrong path and she's always talked to boys when we was in high school but never as much as she was and the drinking and alcohol i know that sense moving an hour away it seems like shes not really around people who want her best interest and that's looking out for her. I guess me as an old friend i worry for her and i do miss our friendship and idk i always feel like we balanced each other out she made me more social and i made her more calm and think before she act. But i also fear that if i message her i'll be blocked everywhere and wouldn't be able too or that she wont want to make up sense i said all those things too her in our argument. I don't really know what too do should i leave it alone or should i find some way to contact her?

[catfeeder]

The first set of blow offs sound as though she didn't want to position herself to run into your Mom at milestone events in your life. The last blowoff doesn't make any sense, other than that she's adopted bad habits and is now off the deep end. I'd leave her alone for a longer time. She'll either grow out of it, or not. If not, there's nothing to be gained by tangling with someone who's hostile and blows you off.

[VeGamer98]

The first set of blow offs sound as though she didn't want to position herself to run into your Mom at milestone events in your life. The last blowoff doesn't make any sense, other than that she's adopted bad habits and is now off the deep end. I'd leave her alone for a longer time. She'll either grow out of it, or not. If not, there's nothing to be gained by tangling with someone who's hostile and blows you off.

 

 

Hey Catfeeder i totally get what your saying i appreciate your advice. So you think i should give her more time to figure her stuff out? I think i'm gonna meet up with her former foster mom and talk to her about the situation as she knows her best and she kind of knows what our friendship has gone through and every fight we ever got into she was the one to talk my friend and me about making up but ill defiantly consider giving her time i know shes had a hard childhood which is why she is in foster care so i never tried to judge her but i feel like she heading o fthe deep end like you said but again thank you for the advice