tfisher9180 Posted September 30, 2017 Share Posted September 30, 2017 So, kind of a weird situation. I was with a girl for 4 years, and about 6 months ago we broke up. She had a friend that she fell out of communication with a while back, that I am dating now. Kind of a douche move? Maybe, but I really like this girl. I think she's amazing, and we truly have a good connection. Me being with her has nothing to do with getting back at my ex-girlfriend, I just truly enjoy being with her. My worry comes in with this, which happened about a year ago: My girlfriend's friend expressed interest in my cousin. Essentially she wanted my ex-girlfriend and I to set her up with my cousin. At the time, that was fine and all since I was in a committed relationship and did not have any interest in her friend of course. We went on this double date, and my cousin wasn't really interested in her, but she was interested in him, nothing happened. Cool. So fast forward a year or so, my ex-girlfriend and I break up. My ex-girlfriend's friend (who is no longer really her friend at this point) helps me through the break-up, and we're really good friends for about 3 months. We decide to date. I've completely forgotten about that entire situation and about her being interested in my cousin. It came up recently because it turns out my cousin goes to the same hair salon that my now girlfriend works at, so they talk for a bit every week. I just remembered all of this, and I'm just not sure how I feel about it. Honestly, I feel like my cousin and her are a much better fit for each other than us. I also can't shake the thought that the entire time that she's with me, that she'll just be wishing that she was with him. Obviously we all plan on hanging out in the future, and I feel like I would just be really insecure and jealous and that something would happen between them and that they would fall in love or something. Honestly, my cousin wouldn't do anything like that to hurt me, but I secretly feel like she still wants to be with him. I also can't shake the thought that she's just with me because I'm the one who reciprocated her attention. If my cousin would have reciprocated the attention, no doubt she would be with him right now. I feel like this is just a bad situation to be in and that I should leave. But she swears she loves me and only me, and I don't really know how to talk to her about this. I really try hard not to hold anyone's past against them, but this one is just really putting me in an awkward spot. Link to comment
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