kybaby27 Posted September 30, 2017 Share Posted September 30, 2017 This is the most confused I have EVER been! I am a 27 year old female, teacher, attractive woman, and I reached out to a 23 year old, good-looking Firefighter/EMT on Bumble app. We went out last Tuesday for a drink... It was a Tuesday so we were alone in the bar, seeming to hit off our conversation, he held my hand there, we had our first kiss, it was smooth and GREAT. As we walked to my car, he made a point of walking closest to the street to keep me safe, held my hand the whole time, we made out... I ended up following him to his house and yes, we had hooked up and it was seemingly perfect. He texted me that night telling me how excited he was and he hopes we work out, how he finds me amazing, etc... Next day he says he HAS to see me sooner. Well, I ended up going to his place 2 days later. Yes, we couldn't keep our hands off each other as he brought me in his room right away and we had hooked up again. After that, he brought me out to meet his roommates. They knew who I was as one of them asked how I like teaching in that grade level. In my head I thought "Wow, this guy must really like me to talk about me to them right away." The guy even comforted me by rubbing my back and sitting by me while I talked to his roommates. Then we went and cuddled and watched a movie. The guy kept making future references "I will cook for you all the time because I'm really good and you can eventually take over" or "I'll show you all around this town" or "I'll buy you the gun you want if you get me the money because I have a friend who can get you a discount" or "I can update your tv to have a Firestick for you with this service sometime, all I need is 20 minutes." SO many future references. For about an hour he constantly held me close and kissed my head and cheek so sweetly (I mean, what kinda uninterested man does that extra stuff?!) I had to leave.. and man was it hard to leave each other as we couldn't stop kissing. Couple minutes later after I left I get "God I like you so much!" He was always so CLEAR about telling me how much he likes me, he would say "probably too much" or "I'm seriously your biggest fan" just so much sweet things that would give me butterflies. He would make a point of asking ME how I felt about him, to make sure we are on the "same page." He said he knew he liked me with in minutes and I said I felt the same. He voluntarily said "I used to mess around but I have grown up a lot and you make me really want commitment." In texts he would hint on me being his girlfriend, he would say his goal was for me to be that but we still need to get to know each other. I agreed... Well our next date came and at about 2pm in the afternoon he said "you're gonna be mad but I can't see you tonight because I got called in for mandatory EMT today." I understood, because that happens... But then I think, why didn't he make a point of telling me in the morning so I wasn't waiting all day? I let it go because he apologized and said he'll promise to make it up to me... Next day, he reschedule for 5 days later. In my head I was like "Hm... why was he so in a hurry to see me sooner before and now he can wait longer?" So we texted on and off those days, time between getting texts back from him got slower, he stopped using so many cute words or pet names (even before meeting him he said "hey love/babe/etc.) One day he stopped texting me in the afternoon and texted me back in the morning "Hey babe I am sorry I didn't reply, I got caught up in work and then crashed at home." I understood again because they have LONG hours and are so busy. He kept initiating a text each day, sometimes not as sweet, but I assumed since he was reaching out he still really liked me. I would always wait for him to start a convo. Well, when Thursday came (day of our 3rd date), I reached out and said good morning and asked him to confirm plans for later... Nothing. I reached out hours again... Still nothing. I told my best friend this and she texted him and played stupid like she was a friend of his and an instant reply. So then I waited.. Gave him the benefit of the doubt. 10 pm I get a text saying "I haven't heard from you all day.." I said "Oh really?" Then he sends me a screenshot of our texts. I assumed he deleted all my texts from that day because there were none there. I look at my name in his contacts and since my name as "Kyle Curr WORK." (Kyle is very close to my real name and I don't work with him.) Instantly I thought, omg I'm being played and he is hiding me...I called him out on that and he said he didn't notice that until I said something and his phone auto-corrected it to that. I said ok.. Well let's reschedule tomorrow, but I'm skeptical and I'd like to talk this all out in person. He said ok and he is free after 5pm. I text him that next morning after HE reached out saying goodmorning. I asked him to confirm plans for 6pm as he said he was free after 5pm. Nothing... All day until 7pm where he said he "Just got out of class." I said "Oh Okay". And I thought he did that bull again to me. So then this morning I texted him very abruptly and literally (out of normal character) said "f-word (won't let me type the real word here lol)" you, I thought what we had was real and I liked you, hopefully you stop lying and stop your player ways. Sincerely, Kyle Curr from Work (in case whoever you're hiding me from sees this.) HE INSTANTLY texts back and says "First of all, I wasn't hiding you. Second of all, I really liked you and hoped we worked out, third of all, you said "oh okay" And I thought you weren't interested or needed space so I gave you that." Of course I instantly felt bad and wanted to apologize... But I gave in and said I was sorry for my nastiness but I have been waiting for you and he has left me so confused. I said I was waiting for him to confirm plans all day, but he didn't. I said I still wanted to see him and maybe the reason for our disconnect has been texting. I asked him if he wanted to see me and he still wants to and asked me if I want to. I said yes. Then he asked me if we can on Monday. I said yes... I think if I called him out on all of that and it was true, he would have just disappeared and never respond with those excuses or reasons each time (whatever they are?) Or maybe he is just very good at playing and doesn't want to lose me as an option.. So many questions. Maybe he's just young and truly doesn't know how to treat a woman yet. I am just afraid I am allowing myself to be manipulated, but I don't want to throw away this if it is something good. I just DON'T understand him. Anybody have any advice or thoughts on this????? Link to comment
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