My bf disappeared after the argument

[Lyndaqwer1213]

Me and my bf had an argument 4 days ago at my house. It began because of his female friend who asked him to meet up to have 'according to her words' important talk, whereby he agreed to meet her. I am not against his friends, just i dont get it, we meet up only twice a week while he can meet his friends every day. He cant even stay with me these two days and it upsets me so much. So we argued because of this and i kicked him out from my apartment. It is only our second fight and i am confused what to do now since there are no news from him already 4 days. Should i worry or not?

[j.man]

How did you find out about him meeting up with his friend? How long have you been together? I mean, I wasn't there, but depending on how dramatic and escalated it got, topped off with you kicking him out of your place, I could easily see him needing to take a breather.

[Lyndaqwer1213]

When we were together she texted him, and he said to me that he s going to leave now to meet her.we have been together for 7 months

[RedDress]

Do you know what the "important talk" was about?

 

I can definitely understand if you are feeling like you were put on the back burner. Sometimes, though, we do legitimately need to take the back seat to friends and family.

 

The million dollar question was whether it was warranted...

[Starlight925]

Why can't he stay with you?

 

You've been together for 7 months yet you only see each other twice a week?

 

Yeah, I wouldn't be happy about this either. At least he should have offered you an explanation as to why he needed to go.

[JustMizz]

Are you sure he's your boyfriend?

 

This sounds more like a casual or FWB situation....

[katrina1980]

Oh man that takes some major "balls" on his part, to announce he is leaving yours to meet another women. Geez.

 

Not buying she is a "friend."

 

He hasn't contacted you in four days because he most likely hooked up wth her that night, and may even "be" with her now.

 

Course he's gonna blame you for getting upset and starting an argument, so HE isn't the "bad guy."

 

Typical gaslighting.

 

Sorry.

[Starlight925]

Oh man that takes some major "balls" on his part, to announce he is leaving yours to meet another women. Geez.

 

Not buying she is a "friend."

 

He hasn't contacted you in four days because he most likely hooked up wth her that night, and may even "be" with her now.

 

Course he's gonna blame you for getting upset and starting an argument, so HE isn't the "bad guy."

 

Typical gaslighting.

 

Sorry.

 

Yep, gaslighting. Great point.

[figureitout23]

Hmmm, even if he isn't doing anything wrong something's off...

[Sportster2005]

Me and my bf had an argument 4 days ago at my house. It began because of his female friend who asked him to meet up to have 'according to her words' important talk, whereby he agreed to meet her. I am not against his friends, just i dont get it, we meet up only twice a week while he can meet his friends every day. He cant even stay with me these two days and it upsets me so much. So we argued because of this and i kicked him out from my apartment. It is only our second fight and i am confused what to do now since there are no news from him already 4 days. Should i worry or not?

 

Yes you should worry.

 

One of you has to play the adult and contact the other.