issue after a break up->makeup

[Isaac13]

Let me put it like this, i have been with my girlfriend now for 1 year and 9 months, we got into a fight about a month ago, and pretty much broke up, but never really broke up, after two weeks, we got together talked, had sex etc etc, honestly thougth we were fine i got her back after a while now she affirms she loves me and she wants to be with me, but shes a little bit of a social media addict and lately she takes hours to respond to me on her social media, let me put it like this, she's simply not like she was before when it comes to communication, she takes way longer and im almost sure shes ignoring me, it has been about 3 weeks of this, although she does say she loves me a lot and in person has sex with me, cuddles, kisses when we are 1 on 1 she seems to be okay, lets me touch her, touches me i guess in person she isnt very different, maybe a little more distant, but not a lot, almost same physical contact, but i just, i guess i feel she doesnt love me like before, and you know, a gut feeling like this isnt something i just disregard, i never get these types of feelings, when i try to talk about it she just says she cares and she doesnt want drama and dadada,another thing to note is that she is very busy with school at the moment, but, even when she was busy she didnt stop replying before this break up, but well, i guess what i want advice on is:

 

Do i fight for her more?

Can this be me, making everything up in my head?

Do i force a conversation for closure?

Should i stop texting her or with much less frequency?(i guess i text her every two hours or so,what really bothers me here is she is online on facebook but doesnt answer whatsapp, she never did that before)

Am i caring too much? should i just stop caring about these things since my physical relationship isnt really bad?

 

Thank you, anyone who answers

[kctiger]

Have you tried communicating how you feel about the communication issues in this relationship? I'd start with having a discussion with her about where her head's at and also express your feelings and your perspective.

[Isaac13]

ive done it, and she kind of avoids it or says she doesnt want drama, although what's a little confusing is she does say she loves me and stuff, even says she wants to be with me forever and everything, so maybe this is just my problem you know, like something im imagining

[catfeeder]

What was the fight about?

[Isaac13]

its a long story, but we fought about some thing that were wrong on the relationship (mostly not very important things, for example that i didnt drive her home always i sometimes got her an uber but she does live pretty far away, that sometimes im kinda cheap, and that we fought over that and we didnt talk for like 4 days) it was a pretty big fight for her though she got very angry, although there was no insulting or anything like that

[catfeeder]

its a long story, but we fought about some thing that were wrong on the relationship (mostly not very important things, for example that i didnt drive her home always i sometimes got her an uber but she does live pretty far away, that sometimes im kinda cheap, and that we fought over that and we didnt talk for like 4 days) it was a pretty big fight for her though she got very angry, although there was no insulting or anything like that

 

The things you're calling not very important are obviously important to her, so start there. Skip abstract conversations about the relationship and focus instead on addressing the specifics she raised during your fight. By 'addressing,' I don't mean proving her wrong and you right, but rather, take her complaints seriously and either surprise her with remedies for them beyond the show of a temporary effort or, ask her if she'll revisit her complaints with you to help you find better solutions for them.

 

Rejoining after a fight that's never actually been resolved just puts a band-aid on a wound that won't heal. So address the wound, and heal it.