Fixing trust

[Maxx82]

So my fiancé slept with her ex after we had been dating a month. This has been consuming me. I always had a bad feeling about him. He has been completely blocked from her life and she has stated that even though we weren't official at the time she now regrets that it happened. How do I move on from this and stop thinking about something that happened almost a year ago? When I'm with her it's the same wonderful relationship that made me propose. When I'm at work or she's not home I fall into thinking about this. Help.

[AtitAgain]

Man, this is your 3rd thread on this. There are a few things to help you get over it:

 

1) Break up - kills the issue

2) Stop talking and thinking about it - Time heals all things. Get busy with other stuff.

3) Seek a therapist/psychologist/counselor to talk about how you feel, etc. - Personally, I don't think this would help...

4) Kill the dude and your fiancee

5) Kill self

 

Look, I am not advising that you do these things, but you really need to let it go, or do something about it. Wallowing in self-pity, obsessing about it, will only make it worse and cause other issues in your relationship.

[Helpmesavethis]

Man, this is your 3rd thread on this. There are a few things to help you get over it:

 

1) Break up - kills the issue

2) Stop talking and thinking about it - Time heals all things. Get busy with other stuff.

3) Seek a therapist/psychologist/counselor to talk about how you feel, etc. - Personally, I don't think this would help...

4) Kill the dude and your fiancee

5) Kill self

 

Look, I am not advising that you do these things, but you really need to let it go, or do something about it. Wallowing in self-pity, obsessing about it, will only make it worse and cause other issues in your relationship.

 

I agree. Get over it... Move on.. you weren't committed at the time... She has erased him from her life.... It'll only cause more issues down the road in my opinion if you keep harping on it. I know letting go is easier said than done but you've got to figure out what it is to help you do that.

[Starlight925]

If I'm understanding correctly, it's not just that you weren't committed at the time she was with him, but the fact that she hid things from you once you were committed? And she maintained contact with him? And he continued to Facebook post, Facebook message, etc.? But that now, all that's stopped, and he's fully out of her life (you think?).

 

Is that accurate?

[HeartGoesOn]

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