Feeling Consumed by a guy

[Lotusavx]

my friend set me up with a mutual friend. him and i have been hanging out and dating for the past couple weeks. i know its probably too soon, but i feel like i am falling for him. i don't know if he feels the same way about me. we had an honest conversation last night and he told me how he was so into his ex and did anything to get her to be his girlfriend. i just don't know if he feels like that about me, and if any guy does. i am honestly feeling kind of consumed, feeling very over whelmed by how much i like him. i am worried he doesn't feel this way, and i don't know how to bring it up to him about how i feel about him. i know it's way too soon to be thinking about being exclusive, but i need to stop thinking about him. i kind of just want to be honest and tell him how i feel about him, but am afraid he will reject it. what should i do, how should i tell him how i feel?

[abitbroken]

my friend set me up with a mutual friend. him and i have been hanging out and dating for the past couple weeks. i know its probably too soon, but i feel like i am falling for him. i don't know if he feels the same way about me. we had an honest conversation last night and he told me how he was so into his ex and did anything to get her to be his girlfriend. i just don't know if he feels like that about me, and if any guy does. i am honestly feeling kind of consumed, feeling very over whelmed by how much i like him. i am worried he doesn't feel this way, and i don't know how to bring it up to him about how i feel about him. i know it's way too soon to be thinking about being exclusive, but i need to stop thinking about him. i kind of just want to be honest and tell him how i feel about him, but am afraid he will reject it. what should i do, how should i tell him how i feel?

 

Slow down...you just met this guy. right now tell yourself that you are highly interested, but you are not in love. you are infatuated and intoxicated. also, don't sleep with this guy --- you need to get yourself under control and all those bonding hormones will cloud your thinking. Just get to know more about him.

 

For now--- look at it as a good sign that he wants to see you again

[fleur22]

I would advise against telling him all these feelings ands emotions. Slow down, date other men, keep yourself busy...

[ThatwasThen]

my friend set me up with a mutual friend. him and i have been hanging out and dating for the past couple weeks. i know its probably too soon, but i feel like i am falling for him. i don't know if he feels the same way about me. we had an honest conversation last night and he told me how he was so into his ex and did anything to get her to be his girlfriend. i just don't know if he feels like that about me, and if any guy does. i am honestly feeling kind of consumed, feeling very over whelmed by how much i like him. i am worried he doesn't feel this way, and i don't know how to bring it up to him about how i feel about him. i know it's way too soon to be thinking about being exclusive, but i need to stop thinking about him. i kind of just want to be honest and tell him how i feel about him, but am afraid he will reject it. what should i do, how should i tell him how i feel?

Tell him: "Gosh I like you" next time he kisses you and then just leave it at that. Perhaps if you get an "I like you too" response you'll be soothed into not acting like a ninny by confessing your overwhelming feelings of INFATUATION too soon. You don't want to have him running for the hills or feeling engulfment.

 

Have you had sex with him?

[Maxx82]

Yes because dating other men when she has these overwhelming feelings for this guy won't complicate or confuse matters at all...

[j.man]

This the dude who's dad croaked like barely a month ago? I'd lay off hitting him with anything too emotionally heavy.

 

Additionally, and putting it as nicely as I can, you could look through your past few months of posts and there's a huge pattern of dating a couple a couple weeks and putting too much emotional investment in them. When's the last time you were actually single and not dating for any stretch of time? And, at that, when's the last time you were happy during that period? I think you owe it to yourself to take a break and perhaps just learning how to be happy with you.

[Pleasedonot5]

Don't tell him all of those feelings just yet. Show him sincere affection, allow the relationship to blossom.

 

BTW I really really like Thatwasthen's advice. You should do that. Yes.

[Lotusavx]

Yeah it it, and I know I put too much emotional investment in these guys. But this one is different. I haven't felt like this since I met my first ex who I was with for 4 years. Everything I felt when I first met him, I am feeling with this one.

[Honeycomb8]

Yeah but it's only been around 14 days since you've met him. Keep level headed, you hardly know the guy.

 

Don't tell him how you feel. It's WAYY too soon. I'd be running the other way if someone did that.

[Honeycomb8]

I've read some of your past threads... This is like the 5th guy you've dated this year right. And you've already had 2 or 3 break ups this year alone?

 

 

 

That is not normal. .___. Yikes.