Adeleo Posted September 22, 2017 Share Posted September 22, 2017 Me and my boyfriend have know each other for 7 years altogether now, we started seeing each other when we were 14/15 and broke up once I moved away. We would talk every now and again as friends but got on with our own lives. A few months ago we started talking again and fell in love with each other and I ended up moving in with him recently. We have been getting on great and I love being back in a relationship with him, I can't imagine us breaking up and I've always trusted him... He's recently had a hard time dealing with a death of a cousin that he was very close to and I've tried to give as much support I can and been there for him. A couple weeks later I felt that something wasn't right. And for a good reason.I ended up finding messages between him and a family friend that he's known since they were younger, reading the messages between them broke my heart. They started talking about his cousin and I guess it just started out with them trying to support each other which of course I'm fine with, until I read the other messages later on, he would tell her that he loves her, that's she's perfect and he wants to be with her, asked for pictures and so on. I know he's also seen her just before I moved in with him but I'm not sure whether to think if anything happened or not, he said nothing happened. I confronted him after reading through the messages and after a while he admitted to what he did and was on the verge of crying, he told me how sorry he was and how bad he feels about everything, I was heartbroken and mad at first but I'm able to stay very calm and asked questions about why he'd do that. After a few days of talking about it I knew that I didn't want us to break up over this and felt that he sincerely meant what he was telling me. I told him that I didn't want him talking to her at all and to stop communicating with her, he said okay. I then asked him to block her off Facebook as I didn't trust him completely yet, he seemed unwilling at first and kept saying that she was a family friend and he didn't want to upset her and cut off all communication. After a while he reluctantly agreed to it . Now here comes the question that I've constantly thought about since all this happened. Next week we are attending the funeral that she will also be at, aswell as the days following up to it. Am I being unreasonable by asking him that I don't want him talking to her? I don't fully trust him yet and it has knocked my confidence knowing that he's had feelings for this girl whilst we've been together. He says that he can't not talk to her and that I can't expect them not to talk after they've known each other for so long, especially whilst we'll be at the funeral, but has tried to reassure me how much he wants us to be together and that nothing will happen. I reminded him that he said he wouldn't talk to her again but he said that he had meant over the messages. I'm worrying so much about knowing that he's going to see her again and I'm not sure what to do. Shall I just accept that they'll be talking whilst we're there? Or shall I tell him I don't want them communicating at all? Link to comment
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