Heart broken... need advise how to forget/miss/not love my ex boyfriend?

[bluemt001]

How to forget or even stop loving my ex boyfriend (27) who left me for someone else?

I am 24. We were together for 2 years and 10 months. Almost 3 years!!! He broke up with me 3 weeks ago saying he wasn't happy with me even though we were celebrating his bday and having some nice dates a week before our ridiculous fight we had which cause us to give us space for less than week. The day we meet up after the fight was the day he broke up with me. He said straight up that he didn't love me and is seeing someone else. The day of the breakup, I felt I couldn't say everything I wanted to tell him or even fight for our love from the shock. So i tried the next week after the post break up to meet up and I give him a letter expressing that how we should give our love a second chance since I stupidly was thinking he was confused or manipulate by his sister-which i never like her since she likes to have him under her control.In this letter and in person, i told him please read it n hear me out and consider our love and our history we have. I told him I'll give you time(which was like 2 weeks with no contact of anything) to meet at this spot if he still had feelings for me. Yet it was so pointless, since it didn't change his mind and he didnt show up. I feel like he was so a hypocrite saying he love me a week before the fight then out of the blue he move on so easily with another girl. Right now I'm accepting we broke up but I am so mad that I fell for a guy who i thought was caring, sweet, trustworthy and would dump me and post in social media he is with another girl after less than two days we met and I gave him my letter and speech about our love. Worse news i heard after i got stood up is when one of my friends eventually told me he saw him with that girl walking to his place few days after giving him my letter. I felt so stupid!!! I was hopelessly waiting that spot for a guy that I thought love me but obviously move on. He never posted nothing facebook so I obvious feel so stupid not knowing this. FYI I only have Facebook not snapchat or instagram so I wasn't aware until my friend showed me that he was posting his loveydovey moments with her in instagram& snapchat. Tbh, I feel like I was slap in my face. I have been listening from friends, family, and web how it might be a rebound relationship and such that he will come back and regret it; and that ill move on. It just time I need!! I know that I have to value and love myself and so on. And believe me I am trying so hard to move on. I have been trying to distract as much as I can and telling myself I can't cry for a man that right now is apparently so happy with her while I am heartbroken but there are moments I feel so sad that he did this me after all the history we have. I really love him. And worse is when i get dreams every night about us either about us breaking up or if we are together. It is the worse feeling to face reality when waking up.

 

i thinks it is just time I need. But it really sucks but I guess I have to deal with it. We were our first relationship together and I guess it hurt since i really thought we were the one for each other. We are both virgen and i was this close to give it to him since I thought he love me but now that he broke my heart. I feel so torn. Who knows now if he even is a virgen anymore if he is with the other girl.

Anyways, my few friends that i have since i was so hook up with this relationship that I even distant myself from them told me to be more social - like go out meet new friends and have instagram and snapchat account and so on-

and use this breakup to be a better woman so that he will regret it.

 

The only thing im glad about this week I'm going to mini vacation to visit some family out of town which I plan a few months ago. Hopefully this will help me heal a bit my wounds and maybe forget about him and this city that reminds me a lot of stuff of us. Friends suggested to use social media like Snapchat n even Facebook to show him little by little the new improve me. But idk yet? To be honest, all I need is sincere opinions/advice/view if you were in my shoes what will you do.

[Helpmesavethis]

Hi, we have another thread going on this very topic. Lots of stories and helpful advice. I suggest going there for support.

 

To your specific story... Don't be childish and go to social media to "show him" how great you are/are doing without him. Do it all for yourself. He should already know how great you are. Get yourself out there and find someone who will appreciate you for you. You're still plenty young and have all the time in the world for the right guy to find you.

[shessofly]

It is going to take time, likely more time than you would like to get over it. Don't try to use social media to get his attention, that will just backfire on you - as you see him posting stuff about his new relationship. Also, you can hinder getting over him by staying connected on social media.

 

I went through something similar and I know it hurts. The more you keep track of his life the more it will hurt you. Ask your friends not to share any of that info. Trust me, you do not want a guy like this back - he overlapped you with this girl and has proven himself to be untrustworthy. You might feel like you want him back for a little while but you will get over it.

 

Take your friends' advice as far as socializing more, getting out and making new friends/memories. Working out helps, avoid social media stalking, etc. It is going to take time. Sorry for your pain!