I Just Don't Get It

[JustMizz]

I would ask that question out of pure curiosity. If he translated it as desperate, who cares! He's a lost cause anyway.

 

 

 

I got frustrated with OLD, too. So many people play games. It just wasn't worth the added psychological effort for me. Dating should be simple. So I closed my profile and focused on my "real" life. It felt great. A year later, I started dating a guy that I knew from childhood. We've been together now for 5 years.

 

Thank you for not calling me desperate for being curious. I'm also going to focus on my life and doing what makes me happy. I went out this weekend for the first time in years and it felt great. I plan on doing it again. I went all by myself, which was huge for me, and a woman I used to work with was there and we spent the night chatting. I'm hoping I can build a friendship out of this, I'm not sure how, though.

 

I'm sorry things don't seem to be working out with him. I hope you choose not to give him this much power over your emotions and motivation to go out there. Kissing frogs before meeting the prince is really tough. Dating was never simple for me.

 

I don't think its so much him as me letting go of my hope that he'd change his mind. I was pretty much over dating when we started talking to me, so it's not all about him.

[annie24]

It's okay. I don't feel used, really. And I agree that two hours is nothing. I actually told him that and he asked how could it be nothing. He said he started thinking about the distance on his drive home that night. It's plausible, I suppose, but doubtful. And I believe he's trying for a FWB thing, because of his "and stuff" comment after saying lets just be friends.

 

I don't think I can be just friends with him, especially not right now. Should I say anything else to him? Or just let it be?

 

I haven't read the entire thread, just the first page. I'd just stop talking to him. I think that the 'friend' this is kind of stupid and I don't think he means it, he's just softening the blow.

[annie24]

This past weekend we had a great date at a zoo and ended up at a hotel for the first time. I knew it was too soon, but I felt I knew him and could trust him.

 

I think in the future you should just trust your gut. It's one thing if you want to have sex and you are ok with it potentially being a one-time thing. But if you were feeling kind of iffy about it in the first place, then it's ok to say no. And if he walks, he walks. good riddance.

[JustMizz]

I think in the future you should just trust your gut. It's one thing if you want to have sex and you are ok with it potentially being a one-time thing. But if you were feeling kind of iffy about it in the first place, then it's ok to say no. And if he walks, he walks. good riddance.

 

I agree. I so wish I would have went with my gut!

 

We ended up refriending each other on Facebook this weekend. I haven't text him since Sunday, nor has he text me.

 

But today he's liking my pics and commenting on a check in I did at a restaurant earlier.

 

It's not bothering me, I'm moving forward. I just feel like he's trying to get my attention. I will not text him, though.

[figureitout23]

 

But today he's liking my pics and commenting on a check in I did at a restaurant earlier.

 

It's not bothering me, I'm moving forward. I just feel like he's trying to get my attention. I will not text him, though.

 

It would bother the crap out of me. I couldn't forget a dude if I kept seeing his FB posts and he kept 'liking' my posts. If I wasn't over him, those actions would give me hope. False hope, but hope nonetheless.

 

I think he is trying to get your attention. Because he secretly wants a relationship with you? Probably not. Because he wants an ego boost and wants to keep you on the line in case he has a dry night? Probably.

[annie24]

It would bother the crap out of me. I couldn't forget a dude if I kept seeing his FB posts and he kept 'liking' my posts. If I wasn't over him, those actions would give me hope. False hope, but hope nonetheless.

 

I think he is trying to get your attention. Because he secretly wants a relationship with you? Probably not. Because he wants an ego boost and wants to keep you on the line in case he has a dry night? Probably.

 

yeah. I'd probably block him. I think he wants to keep you around as a back-up plan.

[JustMizz]

yeah. I'd probably block him. I think he wants to keep you around as a back-up plan.

 

I'm sure you're probably right. I keep fighting with myself over the kind of guy he is. I don't want to believe he's like that.

 

So yea, still hoping, but I'm talking to other guys.