micro Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 Last week my ex girlfriend got married. We broke up four years ago. I had difficulties to move one, but I finally did two years ago. Everything was fine till i got this latest info about her. I feel down for last several days due to this... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArianaTanmi Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 Do you still love her or just can't let her go? How long you have been together? What is the reason for a break up? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pippy longstocking Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 It will just be one of those * sentimental memory* set backs ...your memories maybe telling you that was supposed to be you , or just simply reminding you . Just don't give it any power at all , don't allow your thoughts to dwell ...it is what it is . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Viewcart Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 If it makes you feel any better, what's meant to be will be. You're not with her means she's not the right woman for you. Keep moving forward! There are better days ahead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
No1 Posted September 18, 2017 Share Posted September 18, 2017 Dont want to be mean, but its been 4 years. What expectations were you expecting from your X? For her to magically call you and say I miss you? She did what she was supposed to do and moved on with her life. She found someone she was more compatable with (not better, just compatable) and decided to marry him. It stings to hear that, I know. But at the same time it shouldnt sting because its been 4 years. Have you sought counseling? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
micro Posted September 19, 2017 Author Share Posted September 19, 2017 Do you still love her or just can't let her go? How long you have been together? What is the reason for a break up? Thanks! I don't love her anymore. We were 3,5 years together. We were close to marriage. We broke up bcs I was very much focused on career and work, and hadn't time she needed to share with her. I took her for granted. None of the girls before and after her, were so much compatible with me like she was. Difficult to find replacement. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
micro Posted September 19, 2017 Author Share Posted September 19, 2017 It will just be one of those * sentimental memory* set backs ...your memories maybe telling you that was supposed to be you , or just simply reminding you . Just don't give it any power at all , don't allow your thoughts to dwell ...it is what it is . Thanks! I hope that you are right. Today I am better than yesterday 😊 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
micro Posted September 19, 2017 Author Share Posted September 19, 2017 If it makes you feel any better, what's meant to be will be. You're not with her means she's not the right woman for you. Keep moving forward! There are better days ahead. Thank you Viewcart! Fully agree with you. Hope that also these emotions will fade in following days.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eidetic Posted September 19, 2017 Share Posted September 19, 2017 I married someone else years later because the one I loved didn't come back or make a significant play. The replacement marriage ended in divorce and did not replace or even outlast the earlier love. The best we can do is love in the present time, and sometimes the years have a way of reuniting earlier love. I don't miss either of the men I am talking about. But I do understand how marriage is a shock to the system. If you ever wanted kids and family, birth announcements are a shock, too. Remember, revise, and release. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
micro Posted September 19, 2017 Author Share Posted September 19, 2017 Dont want to be mean, but its been 4 years. What expectations were you expecting from your X? For her to magically call you and say I miss you? She did what she was supposed to do and moved on with her life. She found someone she was more compatable with (not better, just compatable) and decided to marry him. It stings to hear that, I know. But at the same time it shouldnt sting because its been 4 years. Have you sought counseling? Hi No 1. Thank you for very realistic view! I agree with you. I also moved on and was doing fine. She was the most compatible woman i had in my life, so this event maybe erased some thin hopes I had. After all i still hadn't succeeded to find someone so compatible yet. Guess, this is the reason of some emotional discomfort caused by the event... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
micro Posted September 19, 2017 Author Share Posted September 19, 2017 I married someone else years later because the one I loved didn't come back or make a significant play. The replacement marriage ended in divorce and did not replace or even outlast the earlier love. The best we can do is love in the present time, and sometimes the years have a way of reuniting earlier love. I don't miss either of the men I am talking about. But I do understand how marriage is a shock to the system. If you ever wanted kids and family, birth announcements are a shock, too. Remember, revise, and release. Hi eidetic! I very much appreciate your advice and sharing your story! Life really can be tricky and unpredictable. I will learn from your experience. Thank you for this. Hope also that you will find new love comparable with your previous loved one 😊 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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