College DRAMA??

[December123]

I obviously value the education part more, but as I've said I'll have to live in the dorms for the first year and I'm just rrly scared it'll be awkward if I'm older.

[December123]

I did that, I worked as a waitress for a while but tbh it was just rrly depressing, all my friends were in community college and here I was cleaning tables and serving customers for £6.50 an hour, I obviously wasn't achieving anything with my life or working towards a career while all my friends were.

How are you supposed to get into those industries without a degree? Lots of places I've looked at you either need a degree or experience (which is just a never ending cycle) to even get an interview

[Birdie]

What industry do you want to get into? Have you called possible employers and asked them what can help you in getting hired in the future? What area do you want to work in?

 

What I'm trying to get across is going to university because everyone else is and you're young are not the right reasons. What's your career plan? How will your degree assist you in getting there? What degree are you going to work towards and what else do you need to ensure employment post university?

[thealchemist]

Even though I'm only 18 I still feel like I've missed the bus for university. It would be fine if I got in next year BUT if I don't get in then, I WILL just feel like giving up and get really depressed, I do not want to be a "mature student" (anyone over 21 at the start in UK universities) I don't want to be in uni with a bunch of 18 year olds, when I'm years older. No offense but when I hear about mature students I just feel like they're wasting their time, I don't wanna be like that. There's literally no point in that. That would be HELL for me.

No one ever believed in me, no one ever told me I could do anything with my life and I've pretty much just proved them right going to a sh** local college.

I don't think you understand the point of higher education.

 

You go to it when you need education to advance yourself further in a career. It doesn't matter you age or the age of your peers. I had several 50+ people in my biochemistry undergrad and no one would stigma them as you do. They set or curves a lot of the time so I frequently would study with them.

 

Grow up and get some perspective on why you are doing this.

[pippy longstocking]

I hate to say this December but you have the same attitude as my daughter , she is re sitting yr 13 , so if she goes to uni next year she will be 19 and half , as she has had a few struggles I told her to cut herself some slack , and maybe think about higher education in a few years and I got all the attitude that you have given about being too old blah blah blah ....when the irony is there is a lot of growing up for you all to do rather then talking about how grown up you actually are .

 

 

For the yanks ....yr 13 is the last year in high school ...

[j.man]

going to a sh** local college.

Well, I'd have to say I agree it looks like your parents goofed up somewhere.

 

Sorry you're stuck mingling with low plebeians in local college.

[thealchemist]

I went to a $hit community college too for my first 2 years. Saved me 50k. It didn't affect my career or earning potential.

 

Higher education is really what you make of it.

 

You sound like you are very entitled. You also like to blame others.

 

If you want to be at a better school then do well where you are now and get into a better school. It is your choice where to go, what to do, and who to hang out with. If those aren't making you happy then do something about it.

[December123]

I'm NOT talking about the ppl, just the place, I just don't think community college is a good place for education, lots of ppl have no aspirations for the future and don't seem to care, I don't think that's good for anyone else's motivation to be in that environment.

 

Maybe the parent thing was a bit much but i always saw other students being encouraged and no one seemed to care about me, I don't think anyone would like that

[pippy longstocking]

I'm NOT talking about the ppl, just the place, I just don't think community college is a good place for education, lots of ppl have no aspirations for the future and don't seem to care, I don't think that's good for anyone else's motivation to be in that environment.

 

Maybe the parent thing was a bit much but i always saw other students being encouraged and no one seemed to care about me, I don't think anyone would like that

 

You have to let this parent thing go , or talk to a professional about it , it is going to ruin your future if you don't make your peace with it , your last two threads are about this .

[j.man]

You have to let this parent thing go , or talk to a professional about it , it is going to ruin your future if you don't make your peace with it , your last two threads are about this .

Or get some real problems.

 

Some perspective goes a long way in appreciating what you've got.

[Fudgie]

So get awesome grades and then transfer to another college for your last two years. You are not stuck.

[December123]

That's not how it works here. It's not even a college in the US way it's under a degree so I still have like 4 years after this, so 5 years in total. But yeah I guess I'm not stuck

[December123]

I am trying. But it did really upset me. They'd always encourage my sister but never me, I dont think anyone would rrly cope well with that.

[Seraphim]

Attitude will get you everywhere or nowhere .

[Fudgie]

I was very much a loner in college and still am to a large degree. People can be petty and stupid and you will be treated poorly at different times during your life, excluded, picked on, etc. That is life. Over time, as you develop as a person, you can grow a thicker skin because small stuff like this doesn't have to bother you as much. I had a lot of parental issues myself and the one thing that really helped was therapy, tbh. Does your college offer that?

[Hollyj]

Even though I'm only 18 I still feel like I've missed the bus for university. It would be fine if I got in next year BUT if I don't get in then, I WILL just feel like giving up and get really depressed, I do not want to be a "mature student" (anyone over 21 at the start in UK universities) I don't want to be in uni with a bunch of 18 year olds, when I'm years older. No offense but when I hear about mature students I just feel like they're wasting their time, I don't wanna be like that. There's literally no point in that. That would be HELL for me.

No one ever believed in me, no one ever told me I could do anything with my life and I've pretty much just proved them right going to a sh** local college.

 

Good grief! I returned to university twice, and this was in my 40's - two different majors. You are being overly dramatic!

[Seraphim]

In my son's class there is a guy in his 30's at college because he wants a better job or career to give his daughter a better life. I went to a first tier top 100 University in the world in my 20s and guess what never lived in residence and I'm still a fully functioning adult. Then in my late 20s I went to a private college to learn a different skill . And now in my 50s I am thinking about going to my son's college to learn something else . You don't stop learning because you turn the magical age of 21 . After high school I decided I wanted to work a bit . I went to university at 21 . Now I'm going to be 51 and I don't want to stop learning .

 

My son doesn't report childish behaviour at college but maybe he doesn't pay attention to it .

[Hollyj]

If you had applied yourself in school, you wouldn't be in this position. No one to blame, but yourself.

[Fudgie]

The goal of college is to learn, it's not to be a pretty young thing and get wasted. Regardless of what movie culture may say, the goal is to get a degree. That makes college suitable for people of any age. I'm back at school (I'm 27) for a second degree in a special program and everyone in my class is older (24+ generally). One woman is 50! And you know what, I think she is way better at me than a lot of things because of her life experience.

[December123]

Yeah you are definitely right! I never understand when I'm watching those movies or even videos of actual college students and they just seem to be mucking around the whole time partying and drinking, it's as if they're not studying a degree at all. Plus I'd still be able to do that if I was 20 or 21, not like you're ancient at those ages. I kinda want some life experience first, I'm not entirely sure what I want to do or if university is even for me.

[Seraphim]

You're never too old to learn until you're in a pine box .