AlanaNoskcid Posted September 15, 2017 Share Posted September 15, 2017 Hi everyone. So..recently I've felt anxious and questioned the strength of my relationship and I'm not entirely sure why. I don't have any reason to. I haven't talked to friends about it because I'm afraid of what they might think of me. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years, the longest and most serious relationship I've been in. I'm 25, he's 27. We knew each other before dating, I never thought of him as more than a friend, he was always the one to chase me. We now own a house together and have built a comfortable life in our hometown. We were only together for like a year before we bought the house. Originally I was going to buy on my own and he was going to move in, but he thought that financially that wasn't a good decision for him, so we went in 50/50. I feel like it was possibly too much too soon. I guess my other fear is that our relationship has run it's course, but I really don't know as I have no long term relationship from my past to compare this with. He would marry me tomorrow, and I'm just not there yet. Is it normal to feel like the spark has faded? Should we still be in the honeymoon stage? I do get excited to hang out with him but I don't get butterflies, and to be honest when I did they didn't last as long as they have with other guys. We were hot and heavy in the beginning, but if I'm being completely 100% honest right now we haven't had sex in months, not for lack of trying on his part. I tell myself it's because I'm too tired as I work full time, but he works more than I do and he's always ready for that to happen. It's not that I'm not attracted to him, he's a good looking guy and he makes me happy. I know he is so good for me, but at times I feel like I'm living with my best friend rather than the love of my life. I can't imagine not having him in my life, but I also don't have a clear picture of what our future holds. Am I a terrible girlfriend? Has anyone else experienced anything like this? I truly believe timing is everything in life, which terrifies me in this circumstance because I'm afraid that we have the right love at the wrong time. On the flip side, the grass is always greener on the other side and if things do come to an end, I don't want to regret giving up on this fantastic guy just because I had a few doubts. Any input would be appreciated as I am running around in circles in my head and killing my self with over thinking. Link to comment
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