Unsure

[CC3]

I am currently going through a breakup and I'm questioning if I will ever know love. I feel like maybe I'm just broken. The problem is I love deeply and am very affectionate. I've never been able to hide my emotions, they always seem so much bigger than me. In my current situation my partner was very independent and I was just too much for her. But I wonder if I may be too much for anyone. Would a woman want a man who is in touch with his feelings? Are there women who want affectionate men? I'm so confused.

[pippy longstocking]

I think you need to find the line between being an affectionate man and being a clingy needy man ( you haven't said you are that , just the vibe I get )

 

It is about containing some of it to just yourself , instead of showing every emotion , be it love , anger , sadness ... sometimes you need to take stock on your own and ask yourself if that other person needs to feel every one of your emotions .

 

Love in many ways has brought out the worst in me , I have turned into a wreck with jealousy before now , needed reassurance ( when there was no need ) and felt an intense need to be glued to the man I am in love with ...this is all stuff I can look back at my life and see now , when you are in it , you get consumed and can't see the wood for the trees .

 

You haven't actually said why you was too much for your girlfriend , but my advice to you , is , keep something of yourself back , women of course like affectionate men , but no body likes clingy and needy be it man or woman .

[CC3]

Thank you. I guess I am too needy.

[pippy longstocking]

Thank you. I guess I am too needy.

 

You can change that ... you honestly can , neediness breeds off insecurity and lack of self esteem ....you sound like you need to go back to basics and start right within yourself and work out from there , look at these past experiences and ask yourself where they come from , why did you act like that , could you have held it in and dealt with things differently .

 

Certainly don't give up on love ...just give some of that love to yourself first .

[seanryder]

Emotions are part of the human experience. We all have them....good and bad. As children we pretty much 'wear our heart on our sleeves' and every emotion is acted upon, there and then.

 

As we get older we learn to show emotional control....that is, we can feel the emotion (and rightly so) but we don't necessarily have to show that emotion or act upon it......otherwise we would essentially be children in adults bodies. I'm not asking you to suppress your emotions, just learn to control them and channel them in a positive direction. You can be in touch with your emotions, just don't hand over the steering wheel to them.

 

As Pippy said: ' I think you need to find the line between being an affectionate man and being a clingy needy man"